Right, I've tried venting my frustration to my husband - but as its his mother i am moaning about, its not going down too well!!!!
She honestly is THE most interfering annoying person on the planet! I do love her dearly tho!!!!!!
My baby boy is 1 month old...born early...so very small......but doing very very well (touch wood).
The M.I.L (mother in law) from hell is really making my life a misery at the moment...she is constantly visiting (understandable) but refers to my son as "her baby" and is really really pushy when giving her pearls of wisdom regarding childcare!!!! n.b. I used to be a Nursery Nurse!
I've said that I want to feed him room temp milk (he's bottle fed as my milk was near on non existent)......but she insists on warming up the bottles when she feeds him!!!! She reckons warm milk stops colic....ummm, no...babies get colic regardless!!!!!
She phones at least 4 times a day and wants us to put the phone to the baby so she can hear his voice!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What the?!?!?!?!
She insists on swaddling him even tho I've asked her not to do it for fear of overheating!!!!
She keeps taking his dummy out of his mouth when I've said that its advisable these days to give babies dummies...
What I should explain is that I've had experience of a baby passing away due to cot death (not my own but a friend) and so I am a little paranoid about the do's and don'ts!
When she arrives its very much like I am pushed out......most of the pictures she has taken are of the baby, her son, and her relatives....I am hardly ever in them.....its like I don't really exist anymore!!!
My husband isn't very hands on in terms of feeding and changing..cuddles are no problem...I've spoken to her about it and she constantly makes excuses for him!!!! There is no excuse, its his son!!!! She cannot accept that her son is less than perfect! I'm the one in the wrong!
I tell her things that the baby has done during the day - and she then asks my husband about it again - as if I'm not telling the truth!!!!!!!!!!
There is a culture issue between us and she insists that my son will be bought up as her religion!!!! I don't want him to be any religion unless he wants to be!!!! Now I am being bombarded with plans for religious ceremonies and traditions that I don't understand and to be honest, don't really want to participate in! I am not a religious person and have never been...this was always respected before...now my opinions don't seem to count!
Thing is, I know in her own way she is only trying to help and be supportive so I don't want to have a go.....I've tried approaching my husband...but obviously, its his mum and he gets defensive......
She and I used to have a really good relationship and she was NEVER pushy before the baby arrived....now she's turned into something completely different!!!!!
Is there anyone out there who has experienced something similar?? I'm finding I'm not able to count to 10 anymore!!!
Am I just being a touchy new mum? Please someone give me some advice...be honest and tell me if I'm just being a cow!!!!!
I'm not sure how to handle this one!!!
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to be dreading my mother in law visiting...AGAIN!!! Its her baby apparently?!?!?!
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Madmama33 · 07/06/2009 12:11
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