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To suggest that my kids deserve better than me being constantly distracted all day by Mumsnet?

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OrangeSpacedust Wed 03-Jun-09 10:09:01

*Every day*, I try to avoid putting on the PC, but always manage to come up with an excuse to myself – bill to pay ... train time to check ... important email to send ... then inevitably, I get sucked in by MN (and other "recreational" sites that are really not compatible with caring for 2 young kids and stimulating them). I'm ALWAYS sneaking away to have a wee read ... my kids call me and I'll be like "Just a MINUTE!" ... "I'll be down in a second, just going to get some towels (yeah, and read about stuffed pasta and imaginary erections with a raised eyebrow)".

I just can't bloody turn it off, and know I have no self-discipline and am selling my kids short. I do love playing with them too, but when I'm down on my hands and knees building a train set or colouring in, I've still got my next fix of MN at the back of my mind, and am not giving them my full attention, there's no denying it. Any tips for a flaky distracted, NEGLECTFUL mummy for getting my arse in gear?

flamingobingo Wed 03-Jun-09 10:09:59

<<watches this thread for helpful tips>>

Turbomouth Wed 03-Jun-09 10:12:17

This doesn't sound good, I only joined yesterday and I think I've got similar symptoms.

OrangeSpacedust Wed 03-Jun-09 12:31:25

Any good suggestions? Purlease?? Cos I'm back (and have been about seventeen zillion times this morning since I started the thread ...) Muchas gracias.

ChippingIn Wed 03-Jun-09 12:33:25

No suggestions - but looking out for a solution too - tried going cold turkey yesterday - but to no avail! I'm also not getting any sleep as I am on here until all hours - I think MN are putting subliminal messages on the pages

McDreamy Wed 03-Jun-09 12:33:27

What you need to do is get yourself a laptop then you can mumsnet and play at the same time wink

FabulousBakerGirl Wed 03-Jun-09 12:35:16

I had to get DH to block me.

ginnny Wed 03-Jun-09 12:36:16

Get a job grin
I used to be like this, until I went back to work. Now I MN on work time and use my own time to spend with my dc.

jambutty Wed 03-Jun-09 12:36:25

Set yourself a time when you will go on the computer, and set a time limit - so after I've done (whatever) I'll take a cup of tea up and play on the computer for x minutes then after that I'll (list something else you need/want to do). Stick to it - and try to do it when your DCs are in bed/out. And if it works, tell me because I'm going to try it too! In fact, at 12.45 I'm going downstairs to load the dishwasher.

FairMidden Wed 03-Jun-09 12:38:11

It is easy done. I am bad for leaving the PC on during the day (although DP is often downloading stuff or running virus check or doing some other highly technical and probably unnecessary stuff). So I find myself bobbing on and off.

It is something you just need to make rules for yourself about though. I'll only come on if DS is asleep or engrossed in his train set or Duplo or something, which often means ten minutes or so. It's not a nice feeling when he's whingeing because I'm "busy". At least when I'm really busy with housework or cooking he can be involved.

PMSLBrokeMN Wed 03-Jun-09 12:38:59

Welcome to The Internet - it's not just an MN thing, I've been distracted for years now! I have an essay that has to be posted to reach uni on or before the 9th, I've barely started it, so what have I been doing all morning?

Seriously, if it's that bad maybe they can temporarily ban you or something, I've had admins do that for me on other forums when I haven't had the willpower!

OrangeSpacedust Wed 03-Jun-09 12:39:11

Ginnny, that would work if it was a practical solution, yes – I'd be quite happy frittering away my work time on MN, but not my kids' time – I feel that I'm wasting these precious days when they're young. I know, I just need to get a grip, but it's easier said than done.

Hoping someone comes along with a damning statistic like "90% of children whose mothers faff around all day on message boards end up antisocial machete murderers at the age of 15". Anyone got anything similar?? wink

Nahui Wed 03-Jun-09 12:39:13

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melmog Wed 03-Jun-09 12:54:48

I'm with you all the way Orange Spacedust.

I can only prise myself away if we go out. Otherwise the laptop is just sitting there, looking all tempting!

I do shut it down though, to make turning it back on a bit more of a hassle. Didn't stop me just now though!

I was also doing really well with a 'no computer between 10 and 4' rule but lapsed this week. Will start again as actually the dc were less bored and we all had a much better day. Am going to turn it off after one cup of tea.

RumourOfAHurricane Wed 03-Jun-09 12:58:14

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Geocentric Wed 03-Jun-09 13:02:23

I managed to stay ALL day away from MN yesterday <proud>, not even a peek!! Very addictive, although before MN I used to spend all my time googling random subjects. MN just sharpens my focus grin

MummyDragon Wed 03-Jun-09 13:05:32

Yep, laptop and wireless (and iPhone just in case of laptop failure) = bliss.

Face it, a happy mummy is probably more fun for the kids to be around than a bored, miserable one ...

Oliveoil Wed 03-Jun-09 13:08:58

just don't turn it on

play with your children

go on MN in the evening

Turbomouth Wed 03-Jun-09 13:11:03

Well I've only just got out of the shower because of MN, I clearly have no self control.

OrangeSpacedust Wed 03-Jun-09 13:13:36

Oliveoil, I knooooooooow! You're right! You make it sound so easy! Sigh.

Oliveoil Wed 03-Jun-09 13:14:58

put your laptop in a drawer under a pile of clothes

then you can't 'just pop on'

FrannyandZooey Wed 03-Jun-09 13:15:27

the only thing that worked for me was having another baby
now i really really am too busy to get on MN most of the time even though often i would dearly like to
it is the crack cocaine of the WWW
you may have to hide the pc in a cupboard and lock it?

OrangeSpacedust Wed 03-Jun-09 13:17:09

PS Have a laptop and wireless, but it's just as bad as the "fixed" PC imo. I'm still distracted, not giving them my full attention, coming out with things like "Hmmm? Just a minute ... just wait till I ... can you go and start it, then I'll come and join in ... hold on a second ..." Ad infinitum. Not great for making the DCs feel that I find what they're doing interesting.

Just need a kick up the backside I think.

OrangeSpacedust Wed 03-Jun-09 13:17:18

PS Have a laptop and wireless, but it's just as bad as the "fixed" PC imo. I'm still distracted, not giving them my full attention, coming out with things like "Hmmm? Just a minute ... just wait till I ... can you go and start it, then I'll come and join in ... hold on a second ..." Ad infinitum. Not great for making the DCs feel that I find what they're doing interesting.

Just need a kick up the backside I think.

McDreamy Wed 03-Jun-09 13:19:16

Having another baby only made it worse for me Franny! There's he conception threads to join, the antenatal, postnatal, sleep deprived, breast/bottle feeding threads. In a few weeks I will be on the weaning threads...........and so it goes on grin

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