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Deemented Tue 02-Jun-09 17:52:07

Have been living here about 5 months now, and neighbour to the right of me has been very welcoming and friendly, although a little too much so at times, if i'm honest. I've had to take to putting the latch on the door when i'm in as she was just walking in without knocking - and i'm just not used to that, tbh.

Have also had to put a front gate up to get to my part of the house as her dog kept coming in and poohing in my garden meaning that ds couldn't go out and play as often as he liked. Not one for confrontation much, but when i questioned her about the dog all she said was...'oh it's not my dog that's doing it' I juist left it at that and a friend came and helped me build a gate which means that her ndog now shits in her own garden grin

Anyways, today i've been busy in the house a lot, and i could hear her pottering out the back - our houses are joined by the upstairs only, theres a small alleyway running between our kitchens, leading to both our back gardens, i have a gate on mine which is always latched so the boy cant get out - anyways, she's just knocked on my back door and asked what did i think - she's only cut down the privet hedges that divide our proprty from each other!!! She said that she wasn't getting enough sunlight, and now she will!!

I am so annoyed. My back garden is far from perfect - it needs a lot of work doing to it, but i loved the high privet as it gave me a sense of privacy and 'my own place in the world'. Now i'm going to have her dog coming in and shitting all over the place, and i'm not sure about letting ds play out the back as i'm worried he'd wander as he's really inquisitve. I can't afford to get fence panels to put up either.

I'm going to have to say something, aren't i?

FluffyBunnyGoneBad Tue 02-Jun-09 17:56:22

You do have to say something to her, you are right. I'd stick up a 6ft fence, some barbed wire maybe grin. She can't legally chop it down as (IIRC) it's a dividing line between the properties. She can trim her side, not yours. She has to replace it, not you.

Deemented Tue 02-Jun-09 17:58:01

Opps... forgot to say that it's a council proerty, don;t know if that makes a difference.

FluffyBunnyGoneBad Tue 02-Jun-09 17:59:46

Still have a word. Scrap all that boundary stuff.

bellavita Tue 02-Jun-09 18:01:07

Deemented, how rude of her. I am not sure she is able to do what she has done.

Why don't you speak to the council tomorrow and then you have the facts to back you up,

babyignoramus Tue 02-Jun-09 18:01:19

Let me get this straight - she has removed the dividing hedge from between your gardens? Was it on her side of the garden or was it shared between you? If it was shared I think you have every right to be pissed off but if it was growing from her side I think you can't really argue as it's her right to do what she wants with her own plants. But by that logic you could put up a high fence on your side of the border and she wouldn't be able to argue with that either.

YANBU by the way - she should have discussed it with you as I'm assuming there now isn't anything to separate your boy from her dog??

babyignoramus Tue 02-Jun-09 18:04:58

If it's a council property, you need to telephone the council and ask them to either insist on her replacing the boundary between your properties or to do it for her. And I'd insist on a nice high fence. That'll learn her. wink

NB not sure about your council but in ours it's the legal team that deal with boundary issues if that helps!

SomeGuy Tue 02-Jun-09 18:12:09

I'd have a 6 foot fence put up.

Deemented Tue 02-Jun-09 18:15:11

It's a shared hedge - in our tenancy agreement it stated that we must keep our side of the hedge in a tidy, reasonable condition, which i did. I shall get in touch with council tomorrow.

Thanks to the removal of the hedge i can now see her compost patch, that she's been cultivating at the top of her garden for the past 15 years or so angry And that bastard dog is in my garden!!!

Anyone got an air rifle i can borrow?wink

Northernlurker Tue 02-Jun-09 18:18:11

I think the council will sort this out for you. It's just plain weird that she thinks she can cut down the WHOLE thing and let her dog wander in your space. angry on your behalf.

KingCanuteIAm Tue 02-Jun-09 18:22:10

If they are council properties then they will have to ensure that there is a divide of some sort, most likely a fence. It will be down to them to take up the destruction of the boundary with her. Call your local contact for the area (can't remember what they are properly called!) and explain what happened at that you are not happy with it.

Don't talk to her about it, let them handle it.

Bonneville Tue 02-Jun-09 18:26:54

I cannot understand her! So this means that you now have one large communal garden between the two of you?

Deemented Tue 02-Jun-09 18:27:35

And now to add insult to injury, she has dumped all the cut hedge at the top of my garden!!!!

I daren't go out there atm, because i know if i do i will loose it big time!!!

Deemented Tue 02-Jun-09 18:28:31

Yes, theres a small fence next to where my 6ft gate is, and then some steps, and then a communal garden....

RealityIsMyOnlyDelusion Tue 02-Jun-09 18:29:02

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Northernlurker Tue 02-Jun-09 18:31:39

Reality is right! Don't fret though - the council just have to sort this out. Be sure to ring --and cry-- tomorrow and explain how this means your son cannot play outside and how you feel very vulnerable.

mylifemykids Tue 02-Jun-09 18:31:55

What did you say when she asked what you thought of it?!! What a nutcase!

Dlamis Tue 02-Jun-09 18:33:49

Def call the council.

I know someone who had a similar problem with a neighbours dog. It was a HA house so don't know if that makes a difference but the neighbours were told they had to keep the dog chained up/secure in the garden or get rid of it.

SouthMum Tue 02-Jun-09 18:34:15

YANBU and to get my own back I would hire someone to come along and put a new privet up and clip it into the shape of a massive arsehole, as that is what she is......

HalfMumHalfBiscuit Tue 02-Jun-09 18:45:57


Jux Tue 02-Jun-09 18:46:50

I would go out there now and ask her to remove all her rubbish from your garden.

This is outrageous behaviour. Make sure that the Council know exactly what she's done and also that they understand that her dog must be kept out of your garden so that they replace the boundary with something suitable.

MichKit Tue 02-Jun-09 19:10:29

Say your DS is allergic to dogs

RumourOfAHurricane Tue 02-Jun-09 19:16:10

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BoffinMum Tue 02-Jun-09 19:28:59

Meet fire with fire. Have you considered knocking down her house to let a bit more light into yours??

Or possibly start a nudist colony in your half of the garden. Over 70s only.

chegirl Tue 02-Jun-09 19:36:47

Good job you are in council should make it easier to sort out fingers crossed

When I had a council flat my neighbour was a vile witch. I had to rescue her poor old uncle one night when he fell. She had gone out (fair enough) but all of the doors were locked so I couldnt get him clean clothes or a blanket. She had left him in the kitchen and locked everything away including the phone. Poor thing was supposed to be demented but once he was out of there he got his marbles back. turns out he was starving and dehydrated!

Anyhoo - they were old fashioned flats with access to the front door via a balcony at the front of the building. Our flat was at the end so we had a gate. It was great as it gave us a little privacy and security. Woke up one day and it had gone. The witch woman had taken it off the wall and moved it outside her flat! She went absolutly mental when we called the council and they moved it back again. hmm

The day we moved out she fetched my DS1 (then 6) a hefty clout around the head as he walked past her flat.

Bet the old crow is still alive (she looked about 70 but I suspect she was only 40) and still causing havoc.

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