Some context.
DD 16 months.
In laws are good grandparents, nice people. On Friday night they had DD for us for the night, lucky I know.
I dropped her off 5pm.
Normally bath and bed not long after 6pm but in an attempt to be mellow/flexible/reasonable I said that as long as she was in bed by 730pm they could do whatever, their shift etc etc.
They took DD to the pub at 6pm to meet some friends. Fine with this.
Next to pub is a park, more for older children really. Previously on this park FIL had said "oh lets send DD down the slide" and I had said no, its too grown up.
She goes down slides quite happily but this was really high and helter skelter style so less control coming down, IMO.
Today we visit them and he takes her to the top. At this point, MIL said "she didn't like it on Friday" and tells me how FIL had climbed to the top and sent her down it and she had cried because it was "steeper than they expected" !!!! Its bloody high.
I didnt say anything as dont want to upset relations etc but I feel miffed that
- they had clearly done something which only weeks before I had asked them not to.
- IMO they had put her in danger, not intentionally of course as they love her.
- FIL was clearly trying to repeat it again today when he knew DD had not enjoyed it Friday.
So, AIBU?