That's it basically.
We live in the UK, FIL lives in Australia and is known by me as the 'virtual grandfather' as he has had almost nothing to do with the children since they were born in 2004 and 2006. Our girls were his first two grandchildren but he has another one now born to my SIL in Australia in 2007 who he sees a bit of.
He did come to visit us last November (at the end of a trip to Italy to tour art galleries for four weeks), but very bad timing as DH (army) had just got back from six months in Afghanistan the week before and myself and the children (particularly) were still getting used to Daddy home again. It wasn't a great visit. Even though FIL is still relatively young (65-ish) he didn't get down on the floor and interact/play with the children, just sat in an armchair peered over his paper/book at them.
I didn't hear from him to ask after his granddaughters for the whole six months DH was in Afghanistan which made me really angry. But then I hadn't heard from him for probably a year before then so not out of character.
The only contact we have is when DH phones him up, FIL never rings us.
Up until now FIL has been on my family email list and I email photos of the dds on either a weekly or fortnightly basis to him as well as my parents, MIL and my SIL's and BIL. But I really want to take him off the list as I think it's completely crap he takes no interest in his grandchildren. Would this be really petty/bitchy of me?
One thought was to just add DH to the mailing list and if he wants to forward them to his father, that's up to him. But I don't want it to be all me anymore.
Are grandchildren not to be cherished?
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to stop emailing pictures of the children to FIL when he hasn't replied since Sept 2007?
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FanjolinaJolie · 31/05/2009 13:50
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