AIBU to be miffed that my 9mo has not been invited to her 4yr old cousin's birthday party?

[JessJess3908]

We live over an hour away on the train. We have been down there for the day and they sometimes come up to us. The party is in a leisure centre. AIBU to feel a bit hurt that we've not been invited?

[LynetteScavo]

Would a 9mo really enjoy a 4yo birthday party?

YAB a teeny weeny bit U.

[Thunderduck]

YABU. It's a party for 4 year olds. What would a 9 month old get out of it?

[nickytwotimes]

Well, she is only a baby really, so going to a party is a bit pointless tbh.
However, I can imagine why you would want to be there, so in that way yanbu.

[FiveGoMadInDorset]

Yes

[McDreamy]

yes yabu she's just a baby.

[rubyslippers]

YABU

If you DON'T have to spend time at a toddler birthday party then it is a blessing

over sugared and over excitable 4 year olds won't mix well with a 9 month old baby

[HaventSleptForAYear]

YABU. 4 year-olds have their own list of who they want to invite, and a boring 9-mth old baby will not be on it.

It's not like it's a family meal in a restaurant.

Think this is the first time I've said this, (but maybe not )

SOOOO pfb

[Boys2mam]

I can understand your being upset at not having been asked at least, so on that note YANBU

But its a long trip for your baby just to sit and watch, and possibly get barged about by the older toddlers.

[ThingOne]

YABU. I would invite a four year old cousin to a first birthday party but not expect the other way around.

[wonderingwondering]

They may be tight on numbers, as with all the 4 yr old's friends, and their parents, they are probably a bit pushed for space. Why don't you call and ask when you can pop over to celebrate her birthday/give her a card?

We've got a large extended family and now our children have their own friends, birthdays are hard - do we have lots of different parties or one massive one, or just have a friends' party and let the family pop round individually? It is difficult as the children get older.

[JessJess3908]

She's not boring! but ta for the perspective ;-)

[HaventSleptForAYear]

Sorry but she might not be to you but she is to anyone else!

[HecatesTwopenceworth]

If it's a family party then yanbu, if it's a class party (her friends from nursery) then yes, you are being a little unreasonable.

[OrmIrian]

Why would a 9m old want to go to a leisure centre? I expect that there is a limit and the 4yr old wants to invite school/nursery friends.

[Spaceman]

YABU; a four year old girl has her own social group and probably doesn't consider a 9 m.o. part of her gang. I wouldn't dream of making my DD invite children out of her own age group to her party on political grounds.

[YouLukaAmazing]

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[hercules1]

I expect it was difficult to choose which 4 year olds to invite already with limits on numbers and the cost per child. Yabu.

[mrsmaidamess]

YAB TOTALLY Unreasonable and a bit precious.

[ReallyReally]

'she's not boring'

arf

she is a baby. Four year olds can run about and talk and sing and everything.

[SoupDragon]

Oh FGS... WTF do you think your9 month old is going to do?

And yes, your 9 month old is boring to a bunch of 4 year olds.

[ReallyReally]

I guess if you have a 9 mo old you don't have experience of older children?

they invite their friends after 1-2 years old

not their parents' friends or their relatives

it's not a wedding

[hatwoman]

her parents may also be thinking that it would be unfair of them to make you feel you ought to come, by inviting you - it would be quite a lot of effort for you to go and they wouldn't be able to be hospitable, like normal.