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AIBU to be miffed that my 9mo has not been invited to her 4yr old cousin's birthday party?

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JessJess3908 Wed 27-May-09 19:40:21

We live over an hour away on the train. We have been down there for the day and they sometimes come up to us. The party is in a leisure centre. AIBU to feel a bit hurt that we've not been invited?

LynetteScavo Wed 27-May-09 19:41:58

Would a 9mo really enjoy a 4yo birthday party?

YAB a teeny weeny bit U.

Thunderduck Wed 27-May-09 19:42:04

YABU. It's a party for 4 year olds. What would a 9 month old get out of it?

nickytwotimes Wed 27-May-09 19:42:07

Well, she is only a baby really, so going to a party is a bit pointless tbh.
However, I can imagine why you would want to be there, so in that way yanbu.

FiveGoMadInDorset Wed 27-May-09 19:43:27


McDreamy Wed 27-May-09 19:44:14

yes yabu she's just a baby.

rubyslippers Wed 27-May-09 19:44:59


If you DON'T have to spend time at a toddler birthday party then it is a blessing

over sugared and over excitable 4 year olds won't mix well with a 9 month old baby

HaventSleptForAYear Wed 27-May-09 19:45:59

YABU. 4 year-olds have their own list of who they want to invite, and a boring 9-mth old baby will not be on it.

It's not like it's a family meal in a restaurant.

Think this is the first time I've said this, (but maybe not wink)


StewieGriffinsMom Wed 27-May-09 19:46:59

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Boys2mam Wed 27-May-09 19:47:30

I can understand your being upset at not having been asked at least, so on that note YANBU

But its a long trip for your baby just to sit and watch, and possibly get barged about by the older toddlers.

ThingOne Wed 27-May-09 19:47:48

YABU. I would invite a four year old cousin to a first birthday party but not expect the other way around.

wonderingwondering Wed 27-May-09 19:47:53

They may be tight on numbers, as with all the 4 yr old's friends, and their parents, they are probably a bit pushed for space. Why don't you call and ask when you can pop over to celebrate her birthday/give her a card?

We've got a large extended family and now our children have their own friends, birthdays are hard - do we have lots of different parties or one massive one, or just have a friends' party and let the family pop round individually? It is difficult as the children get older.

JessJess3908 Wed 27-May-09 19:48:51

She's not boring! but ta for the perspective ;-)

HaventSleptForAYear Wed 27-May-09 19:59:32

Sorry but she might not be to you but she is to anyone else!

HecatesTwopenceworth Wed 27-May-09 20:01:01

If it's a family party then yanbu, if it's a class party (her friends from nursery) then yes, you are being a little unreasonable.

OrmIrian Wed 27-May-09 20:01:54

Why would a 9m old want to go to a leisure centre? I expect that there is a limit and the 4yr old wants to invite school/nursery friends.

Spaceman Wed 27-May-09 20:03:02

YABU; a four year old girl has her own social group and probably doesn't consider a 9 m.o. part of her gang. I wouldn't dream of making my DD invite children out of her own age group to her party on political grounds.

YouLukaAmazing Wed 27-May-09 20:04:20

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hercules1 Wed 27-May-09 20:05:11

I expect it was difficult to choose which 4 year olds to invite already with limits on numbers and the cost per child. Yabu.

mrsmaidamess Wed 27-May-09 20:05:18

YAB TOTALLY Unreasonable and a bit precious.

lockets Wed 27-May-09 20:05:31

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ReallyReally Wed 27-May-09 20:05:58

'she's not boring'


she is a baby. Four year olds can run about and talk and sing and everything.

SoupDragon Wed 27-May-09 20:07:24

Oh FGS... WTF do you think your9 month old is going to do?

And yes, your 9 month old is boring to a bunch of 4 year olds.

RumourOfAHurricane Wed 27-May-09 20:07:32

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ReallyReally Wed 27-May-09 20:08:46

I guess if you have a 9 mo old you don't have experience of older children?

they invite their friends after 1-2 years old

not their parents' friends or their relatives

it's not a wedding

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