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to spend one single measly pound on present for DD to take to birthday party?

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Wispabarsareback Wed 17-Dec-08 13:32:39

DD1 is going to a birthday party after school on Friday. It's a joint party for two boys in her class - she's quite good friends with them, and often talks about playing with them in the playground. The party is in a local community hall, and it's one of those where the whole class seems to be invited.

Buying presents for her to take was on my 'to do' list today, and I've just come back from a brisk expedition to the street-market near my office. (Yes, I know it's more ideal for her to come with me and help choose what to give her friends - but we're short on time this week!) I hadn't really thought much about what to get or how much to spend - but when I saw Spiderman books complete with stickers for a pound each, I thought they would be just the thing, and bought one for each boy. This is their 6th birthday, by the way.

Am now fretting mildly about whether I've been really cheap - AIBU? At DD's last birthday party I was amazed at how much stuff she got that obviously cost a fair bit more than a pound. I don't want to be ungenerous, but money's pretty tight, they aren't her best friends, and there will be tons of presents anyway. And kids that age all love stickers, don't they?

Children's parties - a minefield whichever way you look at it...

TheFalconInThePearTree Wed 17-Dec-08 13:35:12


believer07 Wed 17-Dec-08 13:35:12

yanbu its the credit crunch and kids in this country get to much already.

I am in a dilema, is it ok to give a gift from a charity shop wrapped up? Does a prezzie have to be new to have wrapping paper?

OrmIrian Wed 17-Dec-08 13:35:19

Sounds OK to me.

deckthegirlandboywithholly Wed 17-Dec-08 13:35:36

YANBU at all.

The books are worth more than a pound, so I would consider it good luck to have found them at a bargain price. Especially as you say that money's a bit tight.

Good for you.

Alambil Wed 17-Dec-08 13:36:05

They won't KNOW it cost a quid, will they!

Who cares; it ain't about spending lots, it's about celebrating with her mates

I only ever spend up to £4 on school mates (inc paper and card)

DS is going to a party and I got the gift in the sale last year for £1 50 - I care not.

scampadoodle Wed 17-Dec-08 13:36:18

I always end up agonising over presents for parties, forgetting that it really doesn't matter. Those Spiderman books sound fine - they won't know how much you paid. Could you add maybe a net of chocolate coins or something? Then it looks as though you're being super-generous!

loobeylou Wed 17-Dec-08 13:37:59

IMO you can get some really good bargains that don't necessarily LOOK like they only cost £1. I got a set of the learn to write /draw shapes type for £1 each on a market once, they retail for £3.99 usually

I got a stack of Thomas books with stickers, free puzzles, badges etc on in a bargain bookshop for £2 each, they look like they would easy cost £5

It is the thought that counts and the birthday parent should be gratfeul you have not bought a massive pile of plastic tat to fill their house up, esp just before Christmas!

Most 6 yo boys love spiderman

Wispabarsareback Wed 17-Dec-08 13:40:39

Good point re wrapping paper and cards - that more than doubled the cost of the books!

Oh scampadoodle, I'll add 'buying choc coins' to my running to-do list... wink

StayFrostyTheSnowMam Wed 17-Dec-08 15:08:40

Yanbu at all.

My dd is only 22 months, so we have all this to come, but she has just received her first birthday party invite to a joint 2nd birthday do for some of her mates from toddler group. The invite specifically said 'please please please do not feel like you have to buy a present, we really only want you to bring yourself. If you feel like you must bring something, please don't buy anything new but bring a toy you don't play with any more, or there will be a Children in Need box for you to put money into.'

I think this is absoutely wonderful and I will be putting this on all dd's future party invites to others (and tweaking it a bit for mine and dp's wedding invites). I read all thread on here about gift buying and the bad feeling it causes, and I absolutely hate the thought of people feeling inconvenienced and under an obligation when all I want them to do is be our guests and have fun celebrating with us.

Sorry, went off on a tangent there, but imo the gift buying madness has to stop!!!!!!! My dd already gets many many times more than what my sister and I did just from her immediate family, there is no point dragging friends into the madness imo.

Coldtits Wed 17-Dec-08 15:09:42

Sticker books are beloved and don't take up too much space, their mothers will be gratefil

nappyaddict Wed 17-Dec-08 15:13:07

LF - £4 is my maximum too but DS is only at preschool at the moment.How old is yours again?

nappyaddict Wed 17-Dec-08 15:14:42

oh hang on I think I remember you saying he's in year 1.

candyy Wed 17-Dec-08 15:32:26

If it's going to make you feel bad, then add some choc coins.

This is the way i think about present buying - i compare what i spend on other kids to what i'm spending on DS. This christmas we're spending a tenner in total on him - he's getting an in the night garden book that cost £3, and a few second hand toys we've picked up at a christmas fayre.

So, I'm buggered if we're spending more than a tenner each on his cousins.

LiffeyCanSpellGeansaiNollaig Wed 17-Dec-08 15:35:32

NYANBU. When it wsa my dd's birthday some of the presents were in my view, too expensive and that made me more uncomfortable because I was thinking, oh fek must remember to get beatrice something a bit better tahn my usual lame effort.

and if a present was a bag of jelly beans I'd just assumet hat the family had bags of money to spend that week and I'd be glad they hadn't spent money they didn't have on a 6 yr old!!

There. Frugal is the new intelligent black!

sunnygirl1412 Wed 17-Dec-08 15:37:08

I never looked at people's presents for my ds's in that way, Wispabarsareback. I invited children to their parties so that they could all have a good time together, not so that the ds's could get more stuff.

I'm sure that the boys will enjoy the books - things with stickers are very popular with boys, in my experience. In fact, even though they are 11, 13 and 15 now, my ds's still want to have the sheets of stickers that come occasionally with Mountain Bike UK magazine or with rock magazines.

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