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to think that Learning An Instrument is a bit of a useless skill?

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morningpaper Tue 11-Nov-08 09:39:48

.... ?

It seems to be something that cheery middle-class mummies with too much time on their hands foist upon their (mainly female) children.

What is the point of it REALLY in this day and age? They don't need to trill something tuneful on the piano to snare a husband - is it REALLY worth the time and money for some very specific and probably fairly useless skills?

belgo Tue 11-Nov-08 09:40:24


revjustabout Tue 11-Nov-08 09:41:12

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morningpaper Tue 11-Nov-08 09:41:45

you can't wait for everyone else

I want you to decide NOW you big sheep grin

ThePregnantHedgeWitch Tue 11-Nov-08 09:41:45

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MaryAnnSingleton Tue 11-Nov-08 09:41:48

to be able to play an instrument brings huge pleasure for goodness sake - if the child wants to do it of course. God how I wish my parents had encouraged me to carry on with classical guitar...

morningpaper Tue 11-Nov-08 09:42:20

But you stopped because it wasn't enjoyable

revjustabout Tue 11-Nov-08 09:43:05

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flowerybeanbag Tue 11-Nov-08 09:43:28

Well none of my skills have been developed for the purposes of snaring a husband, however my musical skills did in fact snare me DH, and indeed a previous boyfriend as well, so YABU!

Plus I enjoyed it, got a lot out of being in orchestras and all that.

morningpaper Tue 11-Nov-08 09:43:28

ok that is an acceptable starting position grin

revjustabout Tue 11-Nov-08 09:43:54

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mabanana Tue 11-Nov-08 09:44:05

I would love to play a musical instrument. I tried to learn as a child but have no ability whatsoever. I am envious of those who can do it. People I know who can play the piano love it. Also, it's good for your brain to learn to play music. It's something I want my children to have the opportunity to try.

belgo Tue 11-Nov-08 09:44:24

Playing an instrument has always been a very social activity for me. I've been in several amateur orchestras (despite being fairly rubbish at my chosen instrument) and I've had fun, making good friends.

ThePregnantHedgeWitch Tue 11-Nov-08 09:45:08

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hullygully Tue 11-Nov-08 09:45:18

I agree. What a bloody waste of time. And art. What's the point of that? Let them watch telly.

Lauriefairycake Tue 11-Nov-08 09:45:45

because music can bring you joy your entire life

chopchopbusybusy Tue 11-Nov-08 09:46:30

I think if the child wants to do it then they should be encouraged. I do know parents who insist on music practise when the child has no interest (or talent) and I do believe that's wrong.

DD1 has recently taken up classical guitar (at 14) and enjoys it.

It's not a useless skill because we need musicians so that we can have new music. I for one would hate to be stuck in some sort of Beatles timewarp for example.

WowOoo Tue 11-Nov-08 09:47:08

Not useless.

There is something very therapeutic in doing something again and again and again until it's just right and sounds perfect.

It's good for the brain and the soul.

pigleto Tue 11-Nov-08 09:47:10

It is something most adults wish they could do. I can play the bassoon to grade 6 grin. It may be a largely pointless skill but I can read music a bit, and I apprieciate how music is put together which aids my enjoyment. I don't regret learning, and I used to enjoy practising but hated performing with every bone in my body.

brimfull Tue 11-Nov-08 09:47:59

my dd loves playing instrument

not syre how useful it'll be thoughhmm

ThePregnantHedgeWitch Tue 11-Nov-08 09:48:07

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DustyTv Tue 11-Nov-08 09:48:08

MP, I can see where you are coming from when parents seem to be making their DC learn an instrument.....but essentialy (sp?) no I don't think that learning an instrument is a useless skill.
DH plays, piano, guitar, bass, drums, and is currently learning how to play the sax. He brings in an extra wage for us by giving lessons.

So I think YANBU if it is foisted on a child who does not want to do it.

But grin

YABU to say that learing how to play an instrument is a useless skill.

MaryAnnSingleton Tue 11-Nov-08 09:48:49

I stopped playing because I didn't think I was good enough,actually...

WowOoo Tue 11-Nov-08 09:48:55

My husband snared me as I was very attracted to his trumpeting skills. Ooh err.

motherinferior Tue 11-Nov-08 09:49:03

I happen to have brought forth female children only, but yes am encouraging them to have a bash on the piano. Why? Well, I think it's a good thing to explore Useless Arty Things, actually. I like the fact DD1 does pottery.

I won't nag them to practise when they're older, the way my parents did to me. But I like uselessness. My own specialist skills are Reading Novels and Eating Cake.

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