To be anoyed when my mother tells the kids she's comming over and then doesn't turn up?

[Marne]

My mum is realy getting to me, this is the 3rd time this week she has let us down, at the weekend she said she would come over in the morning to see the girls, she turned up at 5pm when we were about to eat so i fed her, 2 minutes after she finished eating my brother came and took her home. She said she would pop in monday to see the girls, i waited in, no sign of her so i phoned and she told me she wasn't comming over and she would come over thursday. I keep trying to phone her but her phone is off.

Dd1 is realy upset as she want's to see nanny

Im feeling realy fed up and could do with her looking after the dd's for an hour so i can have some me time.

AIBU to expect her to come and see dd when she told her she would?

Since having the dd's she has never had them for more than 3 hours, she always talks about having them for the day but never does.
I have just about had enough

Rant over.

[more]

YANBU.

Next time she says she is coming over just say to her that you will believe it when you see her, and don't tell your daughter that she is coming.

[Marne]

She tells my daughter 'yes darling i will be over thursday', dd talks to her on the phone (when i can get hold of her).

[Mum2OliverJames]

Did she come ove in the end?

[Marne]

No , no phone call or anything. Im not going to contact her, i give up chasing her up and i don't want dd upset again.

[LouMacca]

YANBU. I have learnt over the last couple of years not to mention to the children about people coming over because of the amount of times they don't turn up! Fair enough if its for a good reason like being poorly or similar.

Tell your Mum not to tell your daughter she is coming over in future, its not fair on you or your daughter if she's not going to turn up.

[Marne]

I will tell her, but maybe not until i have calmed down a little.

[TrillianAstra]

Are you being unreasonable: to expect a person to do something that they said they would do? No.

[pumpkinscantdancethetango]

yanbu

[ChloeandAlfie]

YANBU. Especially since it's happened on more than one occasion, and especially as it's upsetting your daughter. I know it's hard, but I think you should chat to your mum and let her know that she's letting you and, more importantly, her grandaughter down.

You have my sympathies

[Helsbels4]

Yanbu to expect her to come over when she has said she will, as long as she hasn't phoned with a valid reason but YABU to expect her to come over because you want some "me time"! They're your children. If she offers to babysit them then fine and dandy but if you expect her to entertain them when she's there so you can do something else then that is just taking the p*.