DH has had an operation today to remove a varicose vein in his leg, apparently it was much more involved than he thought and involved 5 people in the theatre cutting away at his leg . Anyway, he went in at 1.00pm, he thought it would be over in an hour and I'd pick him up at 2 or 3pm. He's been checked over and in theatre and checked over again until 6pm . When I said goodbye I wished him luck and cuddled him,said it will be ok, he was very reluctant and was very cold like I'd not given him enough attention in the run up to it what should I have done? I feel like I should have done something but I didn't....felt very guilty that I hadn't done 'more'??? Go to pick him up at 6pm and when I get there I have a ferking flat tyre....he is not impressed at all and just wants to go home but we have 90min wait for RAC man to come and sort it out, kids (DD-3 and DS -20months) are demolishing his room, making lots of noise, poking him in his hurty bandaged up leg, that kind of thing and I am apparently not doing enough to keep them under control...I end up feeling like I am just a shit, uncaring, wife. I never seem to do the right thing in these situations, whatever I do is not enough, I greeted him with his favourite chocolate, and Mr Kiplings French Fancies, which are his favourite ....but didn't seem to be that touched by it. RAC man came and repaired the tyre, I drived us home (and of course I instructed on how to drive on the way home, and telling me what lane to get into and grabbing the wheel etc etc. Thank god he was there, or we might all of died!!!!! [hmmm]) I've completely messed up this one by the looks of things but just tell me...what the FERK is a wife to do in these situations, I feel so guilty!!!, Just taken him up some homemade sausage casserole, and french fancies laid out all nicely, like they do in hospital, on a bed tray....he seemed impressed..."mmmm, ahh thats nice" he said. Blokes could never cope with childbirth could they, or am I being too sceptial??
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DH had a minor operation today and I feel so guilty....
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makeminealargeoneplease · 28/10/2008 21:54
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