to think that when I tell my husband where something is, he should be able to find it WITHOUT MY HELP......

[PsychoAxeMurdererMum]

arghhhhhhhhhh



he has eyes, he can use them, but he still cannot see with them......

everytime he is supposed to be looking for something, he cannot see it.......EVERY SODDING TIME

[DoubleBluff]

ther's looking

and then there's manlooking

the 2 are fundamentally different.

[WayneAteASlob]

IME if it is not in the PRECISE spot where you have said, they cannot find it e.g. if you say it's on the middle of the second shelf in the fridge, if it is actually left of centre on the second shelf it will not be found.

[MadBadandWieldingAnAxe]

Yes, 'tis principally a man thing, but daughter seems to have inherited this (lack of) ability too. Nature or nurture, I wonder?

[2cats2many]

It drives me crackers too. I always say: 'Have you had a manlook or a womanlook?' Needless to say he's always had a bloody manlook and I find the thing, whatever it is, within about 5 secs.

[SoMuchToBats]

Ah, yes, it's what we refer to as a "man look"

[sunnygirl1412]

Yep - as the mother of three sons and the despairing owner of one dh, I have to say that looking for things is not a masculine ability.

I sometimes despairingly think that I could send them to look for a pink elephant in the middle of the living room, with a huge neon arrow pointing at it and a big notice saying; 'Here is the pink elephant' - and they'd STILL not be able to find it!!!

Another related gripe is that my dh has no idea where things live in the kitchen, and dumps them on the worktop instead - which is OK the first time, but after I've told him a dozen times where the lasagne dish/colander/grill tray lives, and they're STILL on the worktop - GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!

[MadBadandWieldingAnAxe]

Recently, I have taken to saying in pseudo-sympathetic way "Oh darling, you're so brave. You've gone blind and yet you never even mentioned it". Offensive, I know, but if we're getting ready to go out, I always have to leave the house with mascara only on one eye because I've had to spend the time looking for shoes, jumpers and keys which were all exactly where I said they were. Grr!

[PsychoAxeMurdererMum]

Oh, ....he is normal then.

I am fine ta very much korma.......am gonna start wine very very soon me thinks, even tho I am supposed to be going to a choc party tonight (())........a visit to my mother means wine, and that trumps choc party any day, especially when I cannot eat said choc!!!

DH has escaped my wrath from the non-finding things under his nose. He was looking for the TV licence reminder thingy, which I said was by the bread basket. IT WAS, only also slightly under the bread basket. My rage ((PMT type)) was scaring him apparently, altho he has gone to pay said licence so not all bad......saves my money at least!

[sunnygirl1412]

Also - putting things back where they came from - what's so difficult about that for a man??

[No1GruffaloHunter]

Mine can't either.

Recent eg

DH "Wheres DDs hairbrush"
Me "In her nursery bag"
DH rumages around in said bag "I can't find it am I missing something?"
Me taking said bag and producing hairbrush "Yes"

I think its a passive resistance thingy but ever so annoying...

[Tillyscoutsmum]

Yup ..... It goes something like this

DP - "Where's the cheese ?"

Me - "Bottom shelf of the fridge, on the left"

DP - " I can't find it"

Me - "Are you looking properly or bloke looking ?"

I go to the fridge, find said cheese in exactly the place I had described and conclude that DP had indeed been "bloke looking"

[PsychoAxeMurdererMum]

lol @ 'bloke looking'

gruffalohunter (love the name), DH also does that with the handbag/looking (or rather non-looking)!

[auntyspan]

I am going to send my DH the link to this thread. He thinks I'm being v unreasonable when I bollock him for not looking for things properly....

DH: Where's DD pjama bottoms?
Me: Top right hand drawer, on the right, underneath her tights
DH:
Me: Any luck?
DH: No... they're not there....

At which point I stop what I'm doing, go in and find them straight away.... at which point DH frowns at me as if to say "you've just planted them there"

glad it's not just my DH. Good job we're not dependent on them finding food for us, we'd be well f*cked

[igivein]

I don't think you're being unreasonable, just unrealistic...

[MarmadukeScarletbloodstains]

I have aksully recently found the cure for the unselessness of DH - he cannot look, cook, use the washing machine, put his clothes away etc

So in an exasperated undertone (although loud enough to hear) I said, "Dear god, it truely is like having another child. And you wonder you don't get laid often enough, well no mother wants to sleep with their children?"

That seems to have done the trick.

[dilemma456]

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[Tamarto]

Bloke looking.

Dp is the same

Him: Where is the paper?

Me: On the chair

Him: I looked can't see it.

Me: What?? V. V. puzzled as i put it there a nano second ago.

Cue me going to look lifting the cusion that had fallen flat and handing the paper to him, by way of battering over the head with it