dd just started tennis lessons. She and another girl swap rackets dd says. Other girl prefers dd's. Yesterday the other girl sat on the head of the racket and pulled the handle making it bend and effectively making it unplayable. It was a pretty cheap Dunlop racket that I bought 2 years ago but I wasn't expecting to have to buy another one for a while.
Should I tell the mother what happened and suggest that she pay a tenner towards the new racquet or do I just say nothing and tell dd not to swap again?
I would buy a new one but tell the mother what happened and don't ask for money. Before you say anything, are you sure it was the other girl that did it? If you are sure tell her you've told your dd no swapping and could she please tell her dd that too.
I'm sure she'd be mortified, it's a shame but I think you need to say something but not expect her to stump up. She might anyway, out of embarrassment, but you do need to say something if only to make sure it doesn't happen again.
I think I may be too much of a wimp to ask her for money anyway. dd said that the teacher had seen her do it and said 'hey, don't do that to your racquet or your mum will have to buy a new one. The girl laughed and said 'it's not mine, it's hers' and then said to dd 'I broke your racquet, ha, ha.' in a giggly sort of way.
dd is not confident atall so there's no way she'd confront her about it. She just said 'I know' but she did say afterwards that she wouldn't swap again.