I know its a little thing but on ds 1st day at school they were given a reward chart for stickers for 1st few weeks got one every few days. Then nothing for last 3 weeks. Tonight he has accidently brought someone elses book bag home so I hace sneeked a look at their chrt and its covered in stickers and some are really recent (teacher writes date and why next to sticker) I feel relly annoyed as he seems to be getting alright. Know its only a small thing to a grown up but to a 4 year old its a really big deal. Also having irrational thoughts of mum with my ds book bag looking at his chart and gloating her dc has more stickers (she knows she has wrong bag as have had a call from the school saying she has called them to tell them of mistake.
Has your ds mentioned it to you before now? I would probably feel the same tbh. DD has just started school too and they got stickers first week or so but that soon stopped! No one gets them now though, well they do if they do really good work (not that I'm gloating that my 4 year old got Headteachers Award you understand ) but if everyone else was getting stickers and my dd wasn't then I would be questioning it. Could you ask the teacher, saying your ds had asked why he wasn't getting stickers?
I can see why you are annoyed, but if it's a big class and your ds is quietly getting on with things maybe the teacher doesn't notice him as much as she notices the other children who are more 'outgoing' and push themselves forward, either in a positive or negative way. In my dd1's classroom there is a chart on the wall and the person with the most 'stars' for good behaviour is a boy who has problems with his behaviour (I've witnessed his behaviour when helping in the classroom). I think that teachers often believe that the children who have difficulty behaving well need more encouragement and acknowledgment when they do behave acceptably, and there's some truth in that.