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To have felt patronised by the man in the deli today?

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LittleMyDancingWithTheDevil Mon 13-Oct-08 19:59:28

I went into the deli and asked if the feta in their salads was made with pasteurised milk (currently pg). the man said no, it wasn't, and that he obviously wasn't a woman (well, er, no) but that he wouldn't take the risk even with pasteurised feta.

So then when i said something about how come it was all the nice things that we weren't allowed he said 'well maybe it's a good lesson in thinking about something other than ourselves, isn't it?'

Erm......what? [hmmm]

Is it me or was that a bit patronising?

<<warning - I may be hormonal about this grin>>

harpomarx Mon 13-Oct-08 20:01:14

heavy-handed humour, I think - perhaps just a tad hormonal wink

anyfucker Mon 13-Oct-08 20:01:37


you are being hormonal

he is obviously a father

if this is your first, you will soon know what he means wink

LittleMyDancingWithTheDevil Mon 13-Oct-08 20:02:23

I think that's why I'm so indignant - this is my third pregnancy, I think I have given up all sense of doing ANYTHING for myself any more.....grin

anyfucker Mon 13-Oct-08 20:05:40

aww, lol

BlueBumedFly Mon 13-Oct-08 20:06:37

Perhaps he is a churchgoer and that is the way he lives his life thinking of others? It does sound like something my ex-step-mother would say and she is overtly religeous (which I don't have a problem with I just want to state for the record!).

A tad hormonal perhaps?

Hassled Mon 13-Oct-08 20:09:12

No, I would have felt patronised - and am most definately not pregnant (though possibly hormonal).

monkeymonkeymonkey Mon 13-Oct-08 20:10:28

I think it is patronising.

LittleMyDancingWithTheDevil Mon 13-Oct-08 20:20:18

I laughed it off with something about giving up alcohol and how I thought DP should give up booze too for the duration, and he said 'Oh yes, he should'.

He seemed quite serious.

Clearly he is a little holier than thou grin

BloodshotEyeballsintheScarySky Mon 13-Oct-08 20:20:44

I would have been a bit pissed off by that. Cheeky sod. You might do 40 hours a week voluntary work and let your house out to refugees for all he knows.

TheArmadillo Mon 13-Oct-08 20:21:39

I would find that patronising tbh, but not enough to lose sleep over (not that I was suggesting you were)

nickytwoooohtimes Mon 13-Oct-08 20:22:29

He sounds like an arse.

ilovemydog Mon 13-Oct-08 20:24:46

waitrose in Henleaze?

onepieceoflollipop Mon 13-Oct-08 20:26:09

No idea if YABU as I wasn't there to assess the situation properly. grin

However I would like to reassure you that you are still "allowed" many of the nice things, in particular chocolate and cakes.

LittleMyDancingWithTheDevil Mon 13-Oct-08 20:28:59


shan't name it in case he googles himself!

but you know it. small chain of posh independent delis - begins with C

LittleMyDancingWithTheDevil Mon 13-Oct-08 20:30:43

grin onepieceoflollipop - am eating chocolate right now!

TheArmadillo Mon 13-Oct-08 20:31:53

I know who you mean.

LittleMyDancingWithTheDevil Mon 13-Oct-08 20:32:53

I should have expected them to be a)unpasteurised throughout and b) holier than thou, shouldn't I?

Serves me right. Shall go to Greggs in future.

hecAteTheirBrains Mon 13-Oct-08 20:35:10

Well, it's true - parenting IS about taking care and thinking of needs other than your own - and as well as your own obviously grin but yes, sometimes putting other needs over yours. imo he was dead right in his sentiment, so I guess it comes down to how he said it grin did he speak slooooowly and in a slightly high tone? wink

TheArmadillo Mon 13-Oct-08 20:35:13


still not as poncey as the olive shop we have by us.

Never open and sells only olives. Olives with different things in, but still, bit of a niche market.

Never known how they manage to stay in business.

I hate olives.

LittleMyDancingWithTheDevil Mon 13-Oct-08 20:39:48

olives? is it called something witty using an olive-based pun?

I don't like olives much. they're ok. I wouldn't go in a shop that only sold olives though.

capers, now.......yum yum yum.

HecATETheirBrains - the thing is, he said it twice. and it was in a tone that made it sound like I should learn the lesson he was kindly imparting to me.

I think he thought it was my first baby. Keen to share his parental wisdon grin

Gettingbiggernow Mon 13-Oct-08 20:45:16

Errr, yes he was patronising IMHO!

What's it got to do with him? How does he know you aren't the least selfish person in the local area? Why should there have to be a "Lesson" at all and why is he the chosen one to remind you of it if there is, when actually, you just went in there to buy some farkin feta?

Does he have a sign up saying "Moral lecture - Free with Feta Cheese"? Who appointed him head boy for the day?

D'ya know, I cannot stand preachy do-goodery moral high grounders in the guise of delicatessen staff. It is a pet hate.

PS can you tell I am also pg? grin

LittleMyDancingWithTheDevil Mon 13-Oct-08 20:46:26

PMSL! I think I shall make him a sign just like that grin

Maybe we should get together and growl at deli staff who dare to do anything except give us our FARKING FETA!

Gettingbiggernow Mon 13-Oct-08 20:46:34

Good job he doesn't work in my local deli hey or he might get a few more "lessons" on customer relations....

ilovemydog Mon 13-Oct-08 20:46:40

ends in 'os?'

Ah yes. Had a bit of a 'debate' - asked the same sort of question 'is this pasterurised?' and he made snide comment, so I reminded him that actually the only reason I was asking is that he is obliged, by legislation, to distinguish non - pasteurised, which he clearly failed to do.

he did backtrack, but what a tosser...

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