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thesockmonsterofdoom Sun 12-Oct-08 18:31:14

everytime I log on I feel old and sad and fat and boring, all my friends appear to be doing cool stuff and nobody evens sends me any pesonal messages just tatt. there are loads of picas of all my mates looking cool and going out clubbing and being wild, looking skinny and young and fun, I used to be there too.

EdwardCullenCanHaveMysoul Sun 12-Oct-08 18:33:47

Now I was never skinny but I can sympathise on all the other points grin.
If one more friend declares her 'disgust' at having to provide another dress or yet another black tie do hmm I shall scream.
Oh, poor them, what it is to have to go to so many parties.
Meanwhile my status reads something along the lines of:
Edward is doing the washing up ad cleaning up cat puke.
The glamour.

twinsetandpearls Sun 12-Oct-08 18:33:55

Everyone looks younger, more exciting , richer and skinnier than me as well but I still keep plodding along. Same to real life I suppose.

LadyOfWaffleIsScaryEnough Sun 12-Oct-08 18:35:53

You're lucky, I was never there <<sulk>> I know what you mean, yesterday I untagged myself from some awful pics so they wouldn't show on my profile. Even the ones I do have can't lie - I have become fat and boring. And abit of a loser.

hecAteTheirBrains Sun 12-Oct-08 18:36:23

Nah. I hate it too. I briefly had a profile, just to try it out, but it felt pointless and childish. So I deactivated it.

I am far too old for such kind of things! grin

twinsetandpearls Sun 12-Oct-08 18:37:01

My profile is full of pictures of dd and dp.

BitOfFun Sun 12-Oct-08 18:37:14

I de-registered mine today. Haven't logged in for months, but was getting e-mailed with friend requests from my old school bullies! Why would I want to be friends with them? Plus, I don't like the way you are bombarded with "reports" if anyone so much as scratches their arse - a bit creepy I think.

twinsetandpearls Sun 12-Oct-08 18:38:43

I love facebook though, am on it as much as here and to people whom I see or know so my appearance is not an unpleasant shock.

expatinscotland Sun 12-Oct-08 18:39:53

not been on it, tbh.

signed up for it once whilst under the influence, but never used it.

tribpot Sun 12-Oct-08 18:40:06

I love it when work colleagues forget that all and sundry can read their status and change it to "x is floating through meetings not really knowing what's going on" - LOL.

My least favourite thing is when people try to engage in rows over Facebook status messages, esp if you can only see half of it, e.g. "x thought it was perfectly reasonable and that anyone who thinks differently is really stupid" ... ten minutes later ... "x has had enough and refuses to discuss it further" etc. And these are adults!

Oh my other least favourite thing is that my nephew is listed as looking for dating. He's twelve shock Well, he's not going to be up to much on Facebook when he's friends with me, another aunt, our cousins and his mum and dad!

SmugColditz Sun 12-Oct-08 18:41:23

Yeah, I get reports of "Skinny Sexbomb Jones-Smythingto-Smyth is looking forward to Gatecrasher tonight!" and "Richbitch McQuidly enjoy the party with TPT - now for moe cocaine and good sex with b list slebs" and (from the MN crew) "Bunting Cupcake's Ocado delivery is late, but I'm going to tip the driver anyway because I'm incredibly gracious in that way" and (ok from the real MN crew) "Mummy Onthenet is tired aand a bit bored, and is fossicking around in the fridge"... ok, that last one was me.

twinsetandpalls Sun 12-Oct-08 18:42:20

But tribpot people fall out like that on here and we are supposed to be adults.

beansmum Sun 12-Oct-08 18:44:58

I love it. It's a good way of keeping up to date with what people are doing without having to speak to or meet them!

tribpot Sun 12-Oct-08 18:45:02

True but at least people address each other directly on here and you can read both sides of the argument if you want to, on FB it's mixed up in status updates that you might or might not be interested in, although I do like Colditz's examples! RichBitch McQuidly would do well to remember potential employers trawl for info on FB!

wehaveallbeenthere Sun 12-Oct-08 18:47:46

BitOfFun, how long had it been since you had contact with your "old school bullies"? Just curious. Several years back I ran into one of mine. I was visiting home and was waiting on a friend for a movie. I had a bit of time so I walked into a little cafe across from the theatre. Behind the bar was this girl that I hadn't seen in about 3 years.
She had since married, divorced etc., was just trying to make her way through life like the rest of us. She tried to make conversation but was working and I had to leave but clearly she had grown up and wasn't the bully that school atmosphere supports. Life is a great leveler of the playing field.
I can take or leave Facebook although I usually don't have time. I do like Mn though mainly because I find that everyone is very much the same everywhere.

joyfuleyes Sun 12-Oct-08 18:50:30

Facebook is a narcistist's paradise ... X is fabulous & needs everyone else to know it. The vanity is astounding ... yawn.

kerryk Sun 12-Oct-08 18:52:00

god i cant stand it!!!!!!!

what is with all the holding your bloody camera out and taking your own picture, while looking vacantly at someone standing behind the camera who is not even there!!!!!

or even worse, standing in front of a mirror with your camera and taking a full length pose, then adding tags saying "oh, gosh. dont i look fat in this one?" oh yeah because if you really thought you looked fat you would post the picture on the www!!! hmm

then all the stupid comments that people put up

i.e "if you are going to bitch about me, at least do it to my face"


"cant stand fucking ignorant people"

so that everyone who sees it thinks hmm have i done something to offend them or is someone else in the firing line. chances are no-one has done anything but they just want to look like people think they worth talking about.

which brings me onto the whole obsession with wanting people to think you are some kind of bitch but that you dont care that they think that because a bitch is a cool thing to be.

worst thing by far though is the whole "i am a nutter me, totally kerazy!!!"

i deleted my account a few weeks ago, and cant say i have really missed the comments saying "hey babe, howz things"

tribpot Sun 12-Oct-08 18:54:40

Oh, I also get annoyed by my brother-in-law's very ex-wife, who I've probably met 10 times, wanting me to be one of her 'best friends'. Eh?

Wezzle Sun 12-Oct-08 18:58:00

I love it...only just joined about 6 weeks ago

have found loads of old school friends that I haven't seen in donkeys and arranged some meet ups

it's been great to catch up with people and find out what they've been doing with their lives

BitOfFun Sun 12-Oct-08 19:01:11

wehaveallbeenthere- I haven't seen them since school, but I don't doubt you are quite right about people changing. All the same, I just don't feel comfortable with people I don't properly know being able to see all my conga and goings on facebook. I don't know why I joined in the first place really, but it definitely wasn't my cup of tea.

mumoverseas Sun 12-Oct-08 19:01:25

But that is because I'm totally IT retarded and don't know how to get on it! Loads of my friends are on it and keep sending me mails and telling me to get on it! Will have to move into this century and learn I guess!

symptomchecker Sun 12-Oct-08 19:05:46

i was enjoying it until i realized that i'd posted a load of "challenges" and -when i saw hubbie's page-it looks like i'm a stalker!!Plus,when noone seems to be active on it, I start to feel like a fat old loser...which is probably what i far too old to be on it anyway grin and then when you bump into your facebook friends,you don't know what to say to them except nod at them knowingly!!!!

totalmisfit Sun 12-Oct-08 19:30:24

It's horrible.

Yes, all my old friends are transformed into beautiful people and i'm still just me.

It was nice for a few months catching up with old faces and then i started to get a bit creeped out by it.

I'd just had enough one day and deactivated it about 6 months ago without telling anyone. It was worth it not to have to think about all the people who'd made contact with me simply to score points in the game of 'who's life is best'.

I mean if you're playing that game it pretty much means you've lost, doesn't it?

I couldn't be less competitive and i'm pretty happy with my lot - SAHM to dd, not married, living with dp. Not the attention grabbing stuff everyone goes on facebook to brag about, but it's good enough for me.

In the words of The Libertines 'I get along, people tell me i'm wrong. Fuck 'em'

twinsetandpalls Sun 12-Oct-08 19:34:52

I love it and I am not playing along with a game of who has the best life as I would get knocked out round one.

witcheseve Sun 12-Oct-08 19:39:31

I'm on it although I'm well aware that most people my age actually have a life and have probably only heard of it through their grown up kids.

Suppose I was hoping some long lost admirer would look me up and want to be my friend. It hasn't happened. I get friends request from my DD's friends. smile

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