A few weeks ago my friend and i made definite plans to see HSM 3 together with our families (we both have 2 children) and then go for a bite to eat.
We agreed to book tickets for the 1st weekend it was on so I texted her last night to ask if they would prefer sat 25th or sun 26th as we would book the tickets on-line.
She texted me back to say that they wouldn't be coming with us after all as DD had since got a HSM party inc. cinema on 26th so just to do our own thing. I understand that her daughter probably wants to go with your school friends but don't see why this should change our plans! I am so annoyed as I have already told my DC's that the 2 familes are going together.
To be fair she then did send another text saying why don't we do it the weekend after. We cannot do it the weekend after as we are going to Legoland. We booked that weekend as we thought we had made plans for the weekend before and didn't want to let our friends down!
I haven't replied to either text yet. I decided to sleep on it rather than send a text I might regret. So AIBU? I know you will give me some honest answers before I reply to her text.
BTW. We have been friends for over 10 years and are godparents to each others children. We both have busy lifes/2 children/hard-working husbands. We see other when we can and this would have been an opportunity to get together for the first time in 2 months.
I know this seems petty to other peoples problems but this is not the first time that this can of thing has happened with this friend.
stroppyknickers (that is how i feel right now) - no it is a party invite.
As i said i can understand her daughter would want to go with her friends. What has annoyed me the most is that the invite is since our arrangements (i thought WE had plans) and that she only let me know about this after i texted her so see when to book the tickets.
I hate flakiness so I would be cross too. But, I hate the whole text messaging thing for anything other than 'can you get the paper on the way home' as it is mad to conduct emotions by little messages. Pick the phone up and tell her you are annoyed, that a group outing is more fun for the kids, and can you all do something else that weekend so you don't have to disappoint your dcs. Take yours, meet up some time afterwards and they can all discuss it/ reenact it etc over dinner/ MacDonalds/ icecream
I can understand it's really annoying but personally if I had made plans to do something and was taking the children then DD had an offer of a party I'd probably postpone my plans for hers. As far as children are concerned, meeting up with friends can be any time, going to what sounds like a great birthday party that I know Dd would love to go to can only happen that day iyswim.
Agree not worth falling out - especially as it's the child who has been given the invitation - you don't know if it's her best frends party - and she's the only one invited - or the whole class is going - at this age it's all about friends not family
Make plans to meet for food and then you and your family can go off to the film.
It's not worth falling out over once, but it IS rude - my ESPECIAL bugbear is phoning people to confirm arrangements, only to be told the arrangements no longer stand, for whatever reason. Why the F* am I the one ringing then?? (I always say to myself - never have the guts to say it to them!)