ds (4yo) went to preschool last year, he was fine when there (according to them) but screamed and shouted every morning that he didn't want to go and would have to be dragged from me when I left. Also he refused to use the toilet there (so would wet himself either there or as soon as he got in the car). he refused to join in nativity etc and said how he hated going to preschool. Over the holidays his general behaviour improved greatly and with everything else we decided not to send him back.
My mum is not happy with this and has been on at me again. She is friends with the woman who runs it and apparently they have offered to
a) keep his place open
b) provide him with one to one person for a while
My mum thinks he will have terrible problems with school if we don't send him.
Her main issues are that
a) he needs to socialise in a 'school' type environment (I don't think this is necessary and that he will be fine)
b) he should be learning to read and write as he is very bright and they will teach him that there (they do but I think he'll be fine waiting another year, he's not desperate to learn them and we do plenty of reading with him and playing and following up things he's interested in as and when)
c) he is playing me up as he wants to be with me at all times and would benefit from time away from me. (I work part time - he is with dp or gps when I am away and I don't particularly think wanted to spend time with me is a problem especially as he is not particularly clingy)
I don't particularly think he will be harmed by not going. I think plenty of children start school without going to preschool and nothing bad happens to them. I don't want ds to be put off going to school because of preschool - we have talked about going to school when he is older and he is quite excited by the idea but still doesn't want to go to preschool.
Mum keeps on that we should just try for a few days to see - I think we tried for a year adn that is enough.
I think it is his last year before school and if he wants to stay at home he should be able to.
I think he will be fine - but obv am now having doubts.
So am I doing the right thing or not?
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TheArmadillo · 08/10/2008 20:44
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