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ellie35 Tue 07-Oct-08 16:48:42

Hi all,
AIBU to feel like not bothering any longer with MN. Have tried on loads of occasions to join in threads but seem to be constantly ignored. Can't decide if this is just a clicky club or just a lot of rude people. I have never been offensive or rude to anyone but do not seem to be able to cross the newbie threshold.

CountessDracula Tue 07-Oct-08 16:49:56

Well it's up to you really
Maybe you should be offensive or rude and get yourself noticed!

MN is a BIG place

suzywong Tue 07-Oct-08 16:50:30

do you have a particualrly witty or needy streak?
those seem to be the key factors

surely there must be some self help websites you could look in to?

poppy34 Tue 07-Oct-08 16:51:15

as cd says mn is big place - sometimes peopel pick up on what you say , others they don' but its not personal

must say the threads I enjoy most are the ones that kick off and I can enjoy from the sofa in peace wink

PsychoAxeMurdererMum Tue 07-Oct-08 16:51:20

how long have you been here??

and also, maybe getting a very obvious name might help, as the names seems to stand out on some posters

SixSpotBurnet Tue 07-Oct-08 16:51:23

If you want to give it one more chance - then join the threads that resonate with your particular interests - e.g. there are some mumsnetters who post mainly on Culture Vultures, or whatever - you're much more likely to make friends that way than just chipping in your bit on a huge general ding-dong type thread.

MadreInglese Tue 07-Oct-08 16:51:26

start a thread on SAHMs vs WOHMs or breast vs bottle or lentils vs sausage rolls, that'll get you some attention

Fimbo Tue 07-Oct-08 16:52:19

You need a thick skin to MN.

ellie35 Tue 07-Oct-08 16:52:26

I find it a sad recommendation that the best way to get noticed is to be offensive or rude, surely if you make the effort to put some input in to thread it would nice for someone to acknowledge you, rather than ignore your post and chat only to MN you already know!

Spidermama Tue 07-Oct-08 16:52:40

ellie sorry you feel ignored. Just because people don't address you specifically it doesn't mean you're not contributing.

Have you tried asking specific people questions by name?

There are so many people on here. Sure some of them 'know' each other simply because they're very regular or have been on for years but please don't let it put you off. It's a great place MN. smile

minorbirdOnElmstreet Tue 07-Oct-08 16:52:43

Hi Ellie, I read once that it takes a year of posting on a daily basis to become a regular on MN. Also, a distinctive name helps and posting in the lively spots like the Bar and other groups. Don't give up! I am a recent lurker turned poster and I larve it here and dip in and out as the mood takes me. smile

Kewcumber Tue 07-Oct-08 16:53:02

too many people post on threads to be acknowledged if you did an analysis of every poster you would realise lots of people go unacknowledged.

Besides the point of MN is not to be heard but to pontificate (you can pretend you are being heard if you like but I find its not really essential)

CountessDracula Tue 07-Oct-08 16:53:02


You also need a sense of humour on here!

suzywong Tue 07-Oct-08 16:53:27

for example I will be at once needy adn witty to countessdracula, because she and I " know" each other from way back

Hey CD, ................oh shite, 5 shirazesesses and dh not talking to me because my teeth are stained purple has kickedin and the battery on my laptop is about to go render me needless and witless l.....;............

tiredemma Tue 07-Oct-08 16:54:01

I have been here five years- some of my threads still go unanswered, Im still hardly recognised.

So what? just join in- thats what I do, im not here to be popular but to join in, debate and have a laugh!

jangly Tue 07-Oct-08 16:54:22

Just because you haven't been answered doesn't mean you haven't been read and taken notice of. Threads are ongoing things where people continue discussing without commenting on all the input. Its usually very interesting. Too much so!

Kewcumber Tue 07-Oct-08 16:54:34

if you were standing in a room of 100 people all talking at the same time. You would notice the people being loud and obnoxious and the ones being amusing and the ones you'd seen a lot before.

PsychoAxeMurdererMum Tue 07-Oct-08 16:54:34

CD was joking I am certian!!!

name helps. truly

and posting on AIBUwink

CountessDracula Tue 07-Oct-08 16:54:48

You sound tbh like you are taking it all a little seriously

You need a new name too
Let's think of something to make you stand out
What are you into??

CountessDracula Tue 07-Oct-08 16:55:37

how about

SaintGeorge Tue 07-Oct-08 16:56:00

Wow, you give up easily.

A dozen or so posts and you are flouncing (which is obviously the classic way of getting attention, brownie points for that).

You can't expect people to acknowledge every post by name but it doesn't mean you are getting ignored, just a little lost in the crowd.

Grit your teeth, dive in a bit more and toughen up.

This is a rough town grin

FioFio Tue 07-Oct-08 16:56:03

Message withdrawn

Kewcumber Tue 07-Oct-08 16:56:08

I post a lot on adoptions and West London local as a result on general threads people who "know" me from thse threads tend to acknowledge my posts. I had to put a lot of hard work typing guff advice for a long while to get to that point.

zippitippitoes Tue 07-Oct-08 16:56:11

wanting to be noticed is a bit needy

you just need to post

that is the start and finish of feeling part of mn

no rocket science or inner knowledge required smile

theinsider Tue 07-Oct-08 16:56:35

Is 35 your age, year of birth or number of children? wink

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