Ok this maybe quite long... I have friend who I met when we 3 years old at playgroup, we are not really close but email/text/phone about once a month. A couple of years ago she moved about 200miles away so we only usually meet up once a year. Last year around the time of my los birthdays she emailed to say she had posted gifts to the children, they never arrived so I emailed back, she said she would look into it but nothing ever appeared so I left it. This year she sent cards and cheques 2 months before their birthdays! I kept them back until the day, then banked them. However yesterday the cheques arrived back from the bank as they had bounced . I feel really pissed off that the los have missed out again! I always send something nice to her 3 children and she is always bragging about all the money they have now she has her own business. Am I right to feel pissed off or am I over reacting? should I mention the bounced cheques or just leave it?
She probably had the money in her account 2 months ago but not now. Represent the cheques in a month or so and they may just clear. You can't really mention it to her but she will know because her bank will charge her for each bounced cheque.
She probably had the money in the bank when she sent you the cheques. I would give her a call, it sounds like she might need a friend as she'll be having money problems if these cheques have bounced. I can't imagine them being for a big amount.
Just talk to her FFS. Not sure why people get so upset/angry/annoyed/pissed off at people without even talking to them!
Did you phone her when they arrived to say thanks? Would have been a good time to say to her, I will bank them at their birthday so I dont spend it first, or something similar, then she would know when the money would be coming out.
I didn't bank them at the time as the Los didn't open the cards until their birthdays, she put them into a big envelope with a note saying cheques were inside the cards. The los sent a thank you note to her after their birthdays but before they bounced.
Have just texted her and asked how they all were, she has replied saying sorry about the cheques, and told me to present them again. I didn't mention them so I guess she must have been charged. I have replied back saying I can hold off or leave them, no reply back yet. Feel really bad, glad I posted on here and you all made me see sense, thanks