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Am I being unreasonable to want people to stop trying to ruin my wedding...

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josiemarie Sat 27-Sep-08 16:27:25

I've planned the colour scheme really carefully and spent hours looking online for suitable outfits. I've sent out individual e-mails with links to outfits that meet my criteria and would suit that particular person. Now my SIL is complaining that she doesn't like my choices and my friend says she's already bought something!! Am I being ureasonable to expect people to appreciate the effort I've put in and not spoil my special day?

McDreamy Sat 27-Sep-08 16:28:29

Are they your bridesmaids?

ethanchristopher Sat 27-Sep-08 16:28:43

tell sil to buy something similar then and ask your friend if it is too late to refund or change?

yanbu but it is an inconvenience if they disike your choices

SugaryBits Sat 27-Sep-08 16:29:14

No you are not being unreasonable, just uninvite anyone who has the audacity to not buy and wear what you want them to. People can be so selfish can't they!

Carmenere Sat 27-Sep-08 16:29:25


RubySlippers Sat 27-Sep-08 16:29:28

oh this is SO similar to a thread a while back

the over whelming consensus was YABU

If this is not a troll then i am AGOG that people get so bridezilla-esque to email what clothes guests should wear

belgo Sat 27-Sep-08 16:29:34

Are you really expecting to dictate to your guests what they wear to your wedding?

josiemarie Sat 27-Sep-08 16:29:50

No, they're not my bridesmaids McDreamy, I just want everyone to look nice for the pictures.

TheRealMrsJohnSimm Sat 27-Sep-08 16:29:55 your SIL and friend in the actual "wedding party" (i.e. bridesmaids etc)?? If so then YANBU but if they are simply guests then YABU.

Dictate what you/DH-to-be/bridesmaids/ushers wear, by all means. You can't dictate what other guests wear other than to set a dress code.

RubySlippers Sat 27-Sep-08 16:29:56

i am going to rummage in the archives

BitOfFun Sat 27-Sep-08 16:30:05


expatinscotland Sat 27-Sep-08 16:30:50

what lame trolls we've had round these days.

TheRealMrsJohnSimm Sat 27-Sep-08 16:31:20

well josie, you are ABSOLUTELY unreasonable!! Of course they will look nice for the pictures because they are your friends and they will make an effort for you.

Extreme Bridezilla!

RubySlippers Sat 27-Sep-08 16:31:30

ta da

can we not get a better class of troll these days?


ethanchristopher Sat 27-Sep-08 16:31:42

did you mean normal guests?????????????

then yabu!!

McDreamy Sat 27-Sep-08 16:31:46

Then you are being unreasonable. You can't dictate what people wear to your wedding if they're not in the wedding party. Sorry not what you want to hear but that's my opinion.

Concentrate on yourself, your bridesmaids, flowers etc.

RoseOfTheOrient Sat 27-Sep-08 16:32:28

I just burst out laughing - this is a joke, right?

josiemarie Sat 27-Sep-08 16:32:33

Well my friend just has really awful taste. I've seen pictures of her at her sister's wedding and TBH she looked ridiculous. I don't trust her to pick an outfit. I'll try to find a picture of something similar online to show you what I mean.

RubySlippers Sat 27-Sep-08 16:33:03

first post - tick

in AIBU - tick

similar to previous contentious thread - tick

troll - tick


expatinscotland Sat 27-Sep-08 16:33:51

don't feed 'em, folks.

nowwearefour Sat 27-Sep-08 16:34:08

this is a joke, right?

McDreamy Sat 27-Sep-08 16:35:06

Bugger, I fell for it angry, damn trolls!

ImnotMamaGbutsheLovesMe Sat 27-Sep-08 16:35:08

Deja vu but a lot less funny.

In case you are genuine, YABVU.

unfitmother Sat 27-Sep-08 16:35:25


Joolyjoolyjoo Sat 27-Sep-08 16:36:16

Can't be for real, surely?

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