To feel betrayed by and concerned about DP?

[cryingbuckets]

Sorry should really go in relationships. Just not thinking right. Please don't slate me.

DP is taking his children from previous relationship on holiday. No problem with that and no obection to not going as think its good for him to spend undisturbed time with them.

He told me where he was going and is flying out from Heathrow. I just looked at the departure board to see if plane is flying on time and there is no flight to the place he told me. I checked Gatwick just in case I got the airport wrong and again no flight. I phoned him and asked him to tell me again where he was going as I couldn't see the flight and he told me not to "interfere with his kids" and dropped the call. He's now not answering at all.

I just don't know what to think. He's not back until next Saturday and could be going virtually anywhere at all.

[LittleBella]

Are you sure he is going with his children? Did you actually see him go off with them?

Sorry, but I'd be suspicious. His aggressive reaction to your reasonable question is a bit odd.

[cryingbuckets]

Well the children were in teh car when they drove off looking very excited about the whole thing.

[bellabelly]

Agree that his reaction is very odd. BUT lots of flights have been cancelled haven't they, due to the air traffic control centre going wrong (yesterday or maybe Wednesday?) - could that explain it?

[2point4kids]

Does he have an amicable relationship with the childrens mother?
He wouldnt be taking them somewhere to see his family or just taking them for longer than he should be so hiding where he is?

[sitdownpleasegeorge]

If you are really concerned about his intentions you could contact the children's mother and see if she can shed any light on the mystery ?

[Twelvelegs]

I would ring the ex and ask if she has all the info as you have it if she needs it!!

[J2O]

how long have you been together? sounds a little suspicious to me, especially his reaction. I hope it turns out to be innocent

[cryingbuckets]

He just texted me. It says "Its none of your business where we go, why are you checking up on us".

WHY???? because he's the father of my child. Because I love(?d) him. Because he lives with me. Because I thought I could trust him.

Would never contact his ex. She is completely mad, violent and unstable and has already hospitalised me once and I have no idea how she got custody of the children

Arrrrrrg, feeling cold and numb even though the room is boiling. DP has talked about taking the children away somewhere safe from her and not bringing htem back in the past....... so many things going through my head

[cryingbuckets]

J20 - 10 years

[lulabellarama]

I'm sorry but that reaction is unacceptable. If someone is acting suspisciously it's usually because they have something to hide.
Why weren't you invited on the holiday anyway?

[Bucharest]

Oh dear- CB- hope this all turns out OK....Is he normally this aggressive towards you when you ask about his other kids? I'm afraid it seems a bit odd to me.

[MascaraOHara]

I would be concerned.

Do you think he will come back?

Has he lied about something majpor before. I would seriously consider contacting his ex no matter how derranged she is.. they are her children too and he could be up to anything.

[J2O]

oh wow, i thought you where going to say a few months! yes he definately owes you an explanation.

[Lauriefairycake]

Reaction is unacceptable. I would call the police and give them his car registration number. Maybe they can locate his mobile signal.

[BlingLovin]

I get stressed and worried DP is out and I don't know where he is and he's late - not because I worry about him running off, but just because I am a complete paranoid who stresses about people being killed in car crashes (I'm working on it). If DP told me he was going away for a night even and wouldn't tell me where, I'd be absolutely livid. You need to make him understand this isn't about checking up on him, it's about being able to communicate and know where he is. What happens if you need to reach him because of your DC?

If he won't answer phone, what about a calm text?

[mrsruffallo]

Is he always that rude to you?

[cryingbuckets]

Everything is completely out of character - totally. Have texted him that I will call the police to express concerns if he doen't call me within 20 minutes - now waiting for phone to ring and feeling cold and sick. Got to pick DD up from pre-school too but don't want her to see me like this so they are going to keep her in after care until I can come

[MascaraOHara]

If I were you I'd call the police non-emergency number and tlak through your concerns.. see what they say.

Do you know whether or not the mother of the children know he's taking 'them on holiday'.. do you think she'll be round later asking why he hasn't dropped them back yet?

[IfYouDidntLaughYoudCry]

That is awful. Does he always talk to you like that? Hope things work out and it turns out to be nothing other than him having an arsehole day

[mrsruffallo]

i DON'T UNDERSTAND WHAT CALLING THE POLICE WOULD ACHIEVE?

[Piffle]

I'd be concerned too
You have an absolute right to know where he is.
Sounds like he's maybe planning to head off with the kids?
Sorry but it sounds very suss

[TurkeyLurkey]

err, because he is possibly a missing person with his children in tow.

[MascaraOHara]

I think MrsRuffalo the situation is this

• he has talked about taking the kids away and not comimng back (abduction)
  he has lied about 'going on holiday' either he has lied about destination or flight or airport but you have to wonder why*.. this has potenentially given him a week(?) leeway to disappear with the kids before naybody worries
  
• we know he has passports, clothes, money etc
  
• he is acting out of character
  
• he is not taking calls from his long term partner
  
• we don't even know if the mother of the children knows where they are
  
  I may be blowing out of proportion because my ex frequently threatned to abduct my child but I just think it's really worrying.