- They will never end because there are 25 kids in his class
Only 22 to go then ! You don't have to say yes to all of them although I appreciate it's hard to say no.
- It's getting expensive
Buy books in bulk, boxed sets are good. A book from a box set and a packet of crayons/hair clips can cost £3-£4.
- I am running out of present ideas
DD's mates all get pretty much the same type of thing from us, I can't be bothered to think of different gifts for different children other than boy/girl specific.
- I'd like to be able to plan something else sometimes than just how to get to this that and the other party (and have to drag ds2 along)
Is your ds old enough to leave? DD's mates are all starting to turn 5 and some of them are now left. One on one time with ds2
- We might actually get a look in to book ds' own party
Don't bother or just use the parties as trial runs - which venue does your ds enjoy parties at the most?
- I now feel like we have to have a party for him
No need to feel like this - dd is active on the party circuit but not everyone has a party and no-one thinks anything of it ime.
- It will be expensive because there will be so many return invites plus the ones we want to invite
You don't have to do return invites for the sake of it
Or, book a church hall and an entertainer so that the cost is pretty much the same regardless of number of invitees - that's what we did when dd turned 4. Food for children's party is cheap unless you are buying a meal per child at soft play. You could have a joint party with another child who has a birthday at the same time (also did this when dd turned 4 and so did many of her peers' parents, a godsend as it seriously cut the number of invitations)
HTH