WARNING...This is long....
My MIL has always been a bit of a charmer. I had to post a while ago to seek advice on how to deal with her poison after she'd called my 7 year old dd monkey legs (cos she's got hairy legs ).
I thought we'd sorted this out. I told DH to talk to her in the sternest terms and he said MIL wasn't happy, but then she wasn't going to be, was she? SHE wasn't happy?! Still..I let it lie because my dd loves her nany and vice versa.
Anyway...now dd has come back from a weekend at MIL's saying, 'why does nanny not like you mummy'. I smiled and said, why do you think nanny doesn't like me sweetie? only to find that mil'd moaned and grumbled, then ranted and raved and slammed her bedroom door about me after I'd left. SIL was at house too, so not neglectful, but a tad dramatic, doncha think?
There had been tension when I dropped dd off cos DD had been poorly and MIL, just for a change, had been giving advice repeatedly and very forcefully. I had played it down for about half an hour, but finally, I said, I think I'd better go and left. I was clearly winding her up by not accepting everything she said and she was clearly getting more cross!
I left rather than cause a scene in front of my girl. Clearly that's a consideration his Mum wouldn't make.
Am I being unreasonable to not want dd to go see mil so often? At the moment dd goes once a week for a whole day, sometimes overnight.
I know I'm lucky to have is kind of support on hand, but the cost is getting too high. Every few weeks there's some kind of trauma and I'm managing to play it down right now..
Should I:-
a) Tell SIL that dd is coming home and reporting everything MIL says, so she should be more careful?
b) Stop dd going to the house so often, to reduce the amount of time she's in this environment
c) Pop something in MIL's tea, plead ignorance when she keels over did and look forward to a life of peace and tranquility.
What d'you reckon???
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AIBU?
Another MIL Bashing...but I don't think I am!
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squilly · 23/09/2008 09:52
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