Well?.had a run in with DH on Saturday?.
Saturday was a football day, early kick off so I dropped him at the pub for 11 ? game was 12:30 ? 2:45
Now I was having a Pampered Chef party on Saturday night at 7 which he had known about for weeks, and so the deal was that he wouldn?t be too long so that I could still get the dinner made, he could bath and put the girls to be, and I could tidy up and get ready for my friends coming round?
4pm came and went, and I thought I had best check on the internet what time Dave (drinking buddy that he doesn?t actually even like)?s train was back to Elgin ? discovered it was 5:15. Texted DH to find out the plan to be told that he?d be needing picked up ?around 5??..so I said that was quite late for me to fit in everything but I?d be outside the pub engine running bang on 5.
Anyway, picked him up and he was absolutely smashed?.and we are talking about 5pm. Completely incoherent, talking in a ridiculously high pitched voice ? he got the sharp end of my tongue all the way up the road whilst he argued with me that he?d be perfectly able to bath the girls, and how actually it was my fault because he had been dreading these people coming round all week (the plan was that he?d go up the stairs with his laptop, we?d bring him food and he?d never actually see anyone)(he has suffered in the past with depression, anxiety and paranoia and as such really doesn't like socialising with people, esp my friends who he doesn't know that well or particularly like?so he gets to avoid any situations where there might be "people")
We got home and he wouldn?t let me get to DD2 ? he shoved me out of the way and wouldn?t let me get to her car seat to get her out (she was asleep), picked her up so badly (because he was so smashed) that she woke up, I was left in tears having been shoved out of the way and being prevented from getting to one of my children when I thought that she was in danger..
He then came in the house, still arguing he wasn?t drunk and passed out twice before 6pm..!! "Came to" at 6:30 while I was getting changed to have no understanding whatsoever about how it was 6 at night and not 6 in the morning, and then passed out again. I had to get my Mum up to give me a hand so she could get the girls ready for bed while I welcomed the pampered chef lady and my friends.
Surfaced again at around 9:30pm, obviously still believing it was morning, and then appearing downstairs wondering why all these giggly women were sitting around cooking and talking about kitchenware.
He then muttered something to some of my friends about how ?if you want a decent night's sleep he recommends 18 year old Craigallochy whisky? and then sat down in the seat?
Then at about 11:30 he decided to do something on his new laptop (which had literally arrived that morning to replace the one whose screen he broke on Wednesday evening), picked it up the way he had picked the old one up, and instantly broke the brand new one too.
I told him yesterday morning that if he ever, ever shoved me again or stopped me from getting to either of the girls when I was completely sane and he was so smashed then there would be consequences of the most serious nature ? he just looked blankly at me with no flicker of recognition as to what he had done at all.
And all this was because one of the gawd-awful guys that he drinks with before the football had brought a friend with him who wasn?t as dull as Dave and Donald are, and that he had to show off to be buying and drinking malt whisky with. I don?t give the slightest toss how interesting Donald?s mate was, we had a deal, we had an arrangement, I was trying in my little way to have a life and have my friends round, and he couldn?t keep himself slightly sober by 5pm..!!
All I could get out of him was how bad the football had been, the words 18 year old Craigallochy, and how it was my fault for having people round and how he was dreading it.
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Alderney · 22/09/2008 15:44
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