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to hate the term 'the baby'

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susia Sat 20-Sep-08 22:50:49

It seems bizarre to me but probably being unreasonable that people refer to their baby as 'the baby' rather than their name especially if they have only one.

Someone I know has a baby/child of nearly two and still refers to him as the baby. I feel like saying 'do you mean xxx?'

But think its just me being irritable and intolerant!

Ceolas Sat 20-Sep-08 22:54:17

I found it weird to begin with, but the youngest child in DH's family is always referred to as 'the baby'. hmm

Sometimes I say it myself, but only if I'm talking to someone who doesn't know me/my family very well.

GobbledigookisThrifty Sat 20-Sep-08 22:54:58

Even worse when people just refer to them as 'baby', as if that's their name!

susia Sat 20-Sep-08 22:55:40

don't mind it so much when it's the youngest. Its when its the only child that I think it's strange. Like the child has no name/personality or something.

thumbwitch Sat 20-Sep-08 22:57:35

A tad U, I think - each to their own. It would matter more if the child was older, maybe - probably about the time when they can answer back themselves that they "am not a baby, am a big boy/girl now" (no idea what age that is)

susia Sat 20-Sep-08 22:58:41

yes think it's me, feeling in a very unreasonable mood. It just annoys me along with almost everything today.

wilkos Sat 20-Sep-08 22:58:47

its not really worth worrying about, is it? hmm

mindalina Sat 20-Sep-08 22:59:21

Am I the person you know? grin I do this. I know he's not really a baby anymore but he's not really a proper child yet either.

RGPargy Sat 20-Sep-08 23:00:27

I refer to DD as "the baby" sometimes, but more when there's alot of noise going on with DS and i have to say "ffs, ssssshhhh!!! You'll wake the baby!!!" (DS is 18!).

Having said that, i dont say it so often now, but i more when DD was younger.

misselizabethbennett Sat 20-Sep-08 23:00:47

I think it's quite sweet when you are talking about an actual baby. I did it even though I only had one child. He'd been 'the baby' for 9 months so it was a hard habit to break.

Plus, if I was passing the baby to a friend or relative, I'd often say 'hold this for a minute'.

abouteve Sat 20-Sep-08 23:00:55

UANBU, My inlaws referred to my DD as the baby instead of her name, peed me off now end.

iliketosleep Sat 20-Sep-08 23:01:07

YANBU as it annoys YOU but we call 3 week old DD3 "the baby" "her" or "she" as it still sounds very new and weird calling her Brooke after 9 months of calling her the baby, her and she.

Although calling a 2 year old the baby is a bit OTT i think.

TrinityRhino Sat 20-Sep-08 23:02:46

I do say it about gecko sometimes

but we do have three girls and its not often
like ssshh you'll wake the baby
and wheres the baby?

that last one doesn;y sound good does it grin

iliketosleep Sat 20-Sep-08 23:02:59

sorry misselizabethbennett x posts.

I went to school with an elizabeth bennett, not anything to do with the post but a coincidence grin


Ceolas Sat 20-Sep-08 23:04:04

Actually, I do agree with iliketosleep. It took me a few weeks to get used to calling each of my children by name when they were born. They all needed to 'grow into' their names!

SlartyBartFast Sat 20-Sep-08 23:06:33

simple baby annoys me too, at my friends wedding her baby was referred to by her mother all the time as baby.... annoying.

misselizabethbennett Sat 20-Sep-08 23:07:09

iliketosleep - of course it's Mrs Darcy now!

susia Sat 20-Sep-08 23:09:58

yes think its just what some people do. To me it seems like after about 3 months they have a personality so have a name (even before that).

iliketosleep Sat 20-Sep-08 23:10:49

Yup although we use her and she mostly in sentences like...

"I wish she would stop crying"
"she cant be hungry AGAIN!!!"
"she needs her nappy changed"

although there is

"dp will you feed the baby"
"dp will you change the babys nappy"

and my favourite....

"dp get up and sort the baby out please im soooo tired"


tortoiseshell Sat 20-Sep-08 23:12:26

We have called all of ours 'the boy' and 'the girl'. I quite like it - 'is the boy awake?'

wahwah Sun 21-Sep-08 10:18:59

Guilty, guilty. It does me a while to feel that they've grown into their names, until then 'baby' or 'the boy/girl' does very well. Sorry if it annoys anyone, but then I am probablyunreasonably irritated by your child's given name too. Lillyellamollimilliepoppydaisierosieboo En Suite Bathroom gets my goat every time.

thescurvysockmonsterofdoom Sun 21-Sep-08 10:32:30

I can tell you exactley what age I am not a baby my a big girl hapens, it is exactley 2.5 or last week for dd2. sad she is not my baby anymore, but I have always referred to her as baby.

SmugColditz Sun 21-Sep-08 10:38:50

I often refer to mine as "BIg one" and "Little one"

Or "boy" and "small boy"

Cos it doesn't matter. They know I love them and know their names. They call me mummy but it doens't negate my name.

SmugColditz Sun 21-Sep-08 10:39:24

They grow into their names when they respond properly to them, and for some this is not until they are roughly 35

SmugColditz Sun 21-Sep-08 10:39:51


My dad still calls me Bunty


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