My dd is 7 and is a very bright little girl. She's never been hothoused, I wouldn't say she's gifted, she's just clever. She's not an original thinker (unlike her close friend who's as sharp as a tack and destined to be one of the country's great thinkers) but academically, squillyjunior can tick a host of boxes.
We haven't pushed her to be academic, but her nature seems to make her academically minded and we've encouraged it. We only wanted her to be socially adept (lots of friends and good social skills mean way more than paper qualifications in life) and she seems to be doing o.k. with that too.
So far so good!
Last week my friend started to complain that her dd (let's call her Belle) wasn't doing so well at school. Belle's not interested in the academic side of things and doesn't enjoy it.
I highlighted that Belle is very artistic, exceptional in fact, and that she isn't that far behind the rest of the class anyway. And ffs they're just 7, so it's a bit early to be throwing up hands and despairing.
At this point my friend said that it was alright for me as it was easy for squillyjunior. My friend helps in class, so despite the fact that I don't talk about dd's academic achievements, and sometimes try to play them down in fact, she knows she's clever. I told my friend she was right...it is easy for dd. But my DH is really cross with me about this.
He says, quite rightly, that dd does work hard at her studies. She gets up some mornings and writes her times tables in a notebook, for fun!! She also writes constantly and enjoys reading to herself.
He hates that people think she's naturally bright and wants them to recognise that she's a grafter.
I feel a bit whiney now for typing this up, but I'm genuinely baffled by how I deal with this situation. Is DH right to be pissed off? Am I right to play down squillyjunior's achievements and admit that it's easy for her? Or should I deal with it differently? And if so, how so?
Answers on a postcard please
AIBU?
I think my DH is being unreasonable about this other mums comments on DD?
squilly · 20/09/2008 16:45
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