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Jennyusedtobepink Fri 19-Sep-08 11:27:34

'My 5 week/5 month/4 hour old baby won't sleep'. Try 16 fecking months of it.

I do realise most of this is down to me, and probably am BU, but I just had to say it!!!!!

cupsoftea Fri 19-Sep-08 11:31:58

mine aren't big sleepers so I can be really tired out sometimes.

Jennyusedtobepink Fri 19-Sep-08 11:32:50

If someone had told me when dd was 5mo that she still wouldn't be sleeping through the night at 16mo, I'd have thrown myself under a bus.

MorningTownRide Fri 19-Sep-08 11:32:51

YANBU - met a mum yesterday whose 6 week had slept through hmm

Neither of mine slept through 'til they were 7 months old.

It does get easier (I've been told) smile

StarlightMcKenzie Fri 19-Sep-08 11:34:03

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Jennyusedtobepink Fri 19-Sep-08 11:34:09

Grrr at all parents of babies who sleep through.

envy envy envy

FairLadyRantALot Fri 19-Sep-08 11:35:24

YABU, but I can understand why they wind you up....

tbh, I always think that peopel are expecting so much of young Baby's....and there seems to be an enormous pressure on mums to get a Baby to sleep through as early as possible...this reflects in comments/questions such as : OH is he/she good, does he/she sleep thorugh the night for you....?
I used to anser, oh x is a very good Baby, but no sleeping thoruhg isn't yet happening grin

fryalot Fri 19-Sep-08 11:35:26

my four and a half year old has slept through a handful of times.

Generally she wakes up at least twice, sometimes more...

Jennyusedtobepink Fri 19-Sep-08 11:35:35

Starlight - you bring up a very valid point. Agree completely. Why is sleeping such a big competition? I remember when dd was about 12 weeks old, asking another mother in complete desperation how she had managed to get her LO to sleep through

She wouldn't tell me!!! Bitch.

PuppyMonkey Fri 19-Sep-08 11:36:35

I read a (crap) book by someone called Jo Tantum that reckoned babies should all be sleeping through at ten weeks. shock I felt such a failure when mine was still waking up regularly at 5 months...

EffiePerine Fri 19-Sep-08 11:36:56

DS didn;t sleep until about 15 mo. You have my symapthies, it's ridiculously hard .

justgotbfp Fri 19-Sep-08 11:37:23

5 out of 7 ds wakes at night between 1 and 3 times and he is.....4
not days
not weeks
not months
bloody years

Jennyusedtobepink Fri 19-Sep-08 11:38:06

And I completely accept that it's all my fault, as I can't quite manage CC or any of the rest of it.

But I do wish she'd realise that sleep is a good thing. We can't watch Upsy Blardy Daisy all the time.

3littlefrogs Fri 19-Sep-08 11:38:31

The expectation that babies will sleep causes an awful lot of stress and worry IMO.

IME, a baby that does sleep for long periods, especially at night, is the exception rather than the rule. The real problem in our so called civilised society, is that mothers rarely have the kind of support and help that would enable them to rest and sleep whenever the baby did sleep.

Instead, there is an expectation that mums will carry on doing housework, cooking, cleaning, shopping, looking after other children, and, after a very short period of maternity leave, go back to work, AND do all of the above.

No wonder we are all stressed out.

gingerninja Fri 19-Sep-08 11:38:49

Mine waited until she was nearly two. So 16 months is childs play grin

Jennyusedtobepink Fri 19-Sep-08 11:39:03

Oh you're all being so nice. I expected to be lynched!!!!

3littlefrogs Fri 19-Sep-08 11:39:06

X posted with everyone!

wessexgirl Fri 19-Sep-08 11:39:06

Squonk, snap! Dd1 has just started Reception and we got THREE unbroken night's sleep IN A ROW. Bliss.

JacobsPrincess Fri 19-Sep-08 11:39:07

Jenny, it's no use Grr-ing at parents of sleepy babies - it's not our fault!
I have the opposite problem, I can't get the begger to wake up.

justgotbfp Fri 19-Sep-08 11:40:01

squank I think I love you, I know NO ONE else who has a 4 year old waker

Jennyusedtobepink Fri 19-Sep-08 11:40:03

Ginger - you saw my 16 months and you raised me two years, eh?

I like it. I am smiling. Which is a good thing!

cupsoftea Fri 19-Sep-08 11:40:13

All I can say is that with my first all other mums I knew had babys that had to be woken for meals!!!!! but then came teething & then came moving to a big bed & they had no sleep

BarbieLovesKen Fri 19-Sep-08 11:40:37

Jennyusedtobepink - she wouldnt tell you??!! how ridiculous!!!!!

Its stupid - making it a competition - dont understand it tbh.

Have to admit though, my dd has slept right through since 5 weeks... (sorry!!)

StarlightMcKenzie Fri 19-Sep-08 11:41:26

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MrsJamin Fri 19-Sep-08 11:41:34

goodness this is annoying me too. especially when the babies are 11 wks and they expect the baby to be sleeping through. there was a AIBU thread recently about this same thing though. I think we're all in a culture which is to blame for not being realistic about what babies are like and that it doesn't normally happen that for 6 weeks their sleep settles down to 7-7 and stays that way. Retailers like mamas and papas don't help IMHO - they just portray a picture of beauty, senerity and cuteness of babies that just aint realistic and sets parents up for a huge disappointment. DS is 8.5MO and shows no sign of sleeping through - hasn't done 7-7 once!

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