YANBU - I would be mad too (and I only wash once a half term) Common sense would have suggested the teacher either mentions it to you or writes in his diary. Do you think they think you know but deliberately aren't sending a kit ?
he didn't even know he had a blasted bloody PE kit, and I've spoken a couple of times to the teacher about him not being happy to go to school - he enjoys pe and it could have made all the bloody difference. She could have said for fuck's sake, I was talking to her today about his upcoming CAMHS assessment, the LAST thing a five year old with trouble mixing needs is to be left out of PE because he lost his kit on the first day of term!
Now, Mumsnet, it's your job to turn me from NuclearMum into someone reasonable, how shall I word this to the teacher?
starzzz - do they check on Monday mornings to see if its clean/sniff for fabric softener ?
We just take ours from the cloakroom when we want to wash them. If any of the DSs comes out of school with a PE bag I just go back in and hang it up again - maybe the teachers are trying to tell me something by sending the bags out.
attempt to look at it from her point of view (even if her point of view seems insane)
maybe she's thinking "ah, poor smugcolditz has enough going on with the assessment and everything and maybe she'll notice and remember soon or maybe she doesn't want him doing pe? Hmm.....I must ask her soon"
Unless she's awful (which you haven't said you have other probs with her or anything) approach her with the horror you have said "oh my god he's not been doing PE". She will probably be as irritated as you that this has come about without you both talking about it.
this happened with ds2 last year - we only get kits back at half term for washing so knew nothing until parents evening in early oct when his teacher said 'he should have his pe kit you know' yes i did know that was why i sent it in with him on the first day back .
why she hadnt sent a note home before then, or phoned me, or mentioned it to my childminder, ive no idea. when she told me i was so i didnt even think to ask!
the pe kit turned up - fully labelled of course - on someone elses peg.
SmugColditz going in softly and assess her story. Maybe it's been one of those things she keeps trying to get around to but has stacks of other things. My DH is a teacher, does after school clubs and sports then comes home, to prepares lessons, book events, mark home work and send letters home sometimes until 10pm and every Sunday afternoon. Maybe she also tries to look after her own children. I know my DH hasn't got much time for us after that. He plans to write a letter to the head complaining about the work load but hasn't got the time. Please think before blowing up. Pls see my other thread on how cross I get with him about this.
No YANBU. The school should not be excluding anyone for something like this, especially so early in the term. They should have let you know that he was "missing" his uniform.
My personal experience is that schools' communication is very poor. DS goes swimming on a Friday and not till this week did they let us know their uniform requirements. At least they did not exclude anyone (AFAIK).
could it be that general notes went out/got posted at the classroom door saying please can everyone send in pe kits - which , of course, you would have not taken any notice of? obvioulsy not as good as communicating with you directly - esp if he was the only one and if you;ve talked recently - but it's possible there was some attempt.
I simmered down, and went in to look for it myself, after explaining that he has got one and clearly it's lost. It was 2 pegs away from his own so he clearly hasn't looked for it at all and neither has anyone else
But it's sorted.
You can so tell he is my PFB, I have NO perspective where he is concerned, I have much more perspective with ds2!