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to be pissed off that being a working mum = guilt from every direction?

(10 Posts)
MrsEwanMcGregor Wed 17-Sep-08 21:15:09

Sorry - first post and a bit of a rant!

Why oh why can I not just go to work without feeling guilty about something?

DD is 9 and no problem - DS is 3 and no problem.

My mother is 65 and acts like a spoilt 2 year old when I say DS is going to the childminder more often when he starts nursery next week instead of spending every day woth her like he was before the summer hols (change of job in a new town - it's complicated!)

My DH is always telling me to stand up to her more and THAT makes me feel guilty.

Other mums (friends/ex-friends) implying I am a second rate mum just because I go to work.

I AM PEEVED!!! I am good at my job and I love it but most importantly I am a good Mum and my kids are the most important things in my life. They don't seem to have a problem with me working so why does everyone else?!

RANT OVER - maybe I need therapy!!

Elasticwoman Wed 17-Sep-08 21:17:42

There are SAHMs on MN who complain that people criticise them for that. Stop expecting to please every one.

Elasticwoman Wed 17-Sep-08 21:18:24

ps if you gave up work, your mum would probably find something else to criticise you for.

NicMac Wed 17-Sep-08 21:19:08

You can't win if you work or stay at home. If your children don't have a problem with you working then dont beat yourself up.

TheInvisibleManDidIt Wed 17-Sep-08 21:26:21

You are doing what is best for you and your family. You're happy with this, you're children are happy with this, so sod what anyone else thinks. smile

I'm a working mum too, but as elasticwoman says, no matter what us mum's decide to do, there will always be someone to critisise our decisions.

cheesesarnie Wed 17-Sep-08 21:27:39

i agree cant win either way!ignore,rant whatever just be happy!

trust me-yo are a mum. you csn't do right for doing wrong.
someone will always find fault.

TheCrackFox Wed 17-Sep-08 21:41:16

Doesn't matter what choices you make they will always be accompanied with guilt until the day you die. Sorry about that.

ScottishMummy Wed 17-Sep-08 21:42:51

your family.your decision.you don't need to justify or explain

unfortunately working mums are a soft target, many people think they can say anything and acast aspersions

unfortunately your mum does not understand your decisions.it happens.maybe this wont resole or change. she might always suck a lemon face when you mention childminder. C'est la vie

one size does not fit all

as you say you are
ggod mum good at your job

lovelysongbird Thu 18-Sep-08 15:57:13

you have to do what you want its one of those ares where you can't please everyone so should just please yourself.
what works for your family is whats best.

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