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to think mothers who stop contact with their fathers for no good reason other than they need to control are sad jealous manipulative f*ckers who need to get a grip and move and stop giving every other mother who have moved on a bad name

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jojostar Wed 10-Sep-08 18:39:40

it makes me so mad AAAAAARRRRGGGGGHHHHH angry

beansmum Wed 10-Sep-08 18:41:41

um, yeah. But not sure that many of those mothers actually exist.

ethanchristopher Wed 10-Sep-08 18:42:03

lol. awww

but no you are not being unreasonable

i do detest sterotyping.

donnie Wed 10-Sep-08 18:42:34

err- what?

do you really mean mothers who cut off contact with their dads?

SoupDragon Wed 10-Sep-08 18:42:50

With their fathers?

twinsetandpearls Wed 10-Sep-08 18:43:02

Are you having a bad day?

CostaRicanCod Wed 10-Sep-08 18:43:02

mayeb they are sick fo dads makign commitments they dont fulfill

jojostar Wed 10-Sep-08 18:47:56

soz yeh stopping kids see dad... dad fulfilled every commitment made and every little demand made in last three years since divorce but now dad moved on married and is happy and someones a little jealous and he's got two v unhappy dd who are no longer allowed to stay........

Janos Wed 10-Sep-08 18:48:10

Do you mean 'their fathers' or 'the fathers of their children?'

If you are going to make a ludicrous generalisation at least do it properly, FFS.

jojostar Wed 10-Sep-08 18:50:43

sorry having a bit of a bad day thought thats what mumsnet was for i'll vent somewhere else just though maybe i'd get a little understanding not a telling off for incorrect grammar...sad

soon2be3 Wed 10-Sep-08 18:53:09

I was just thinking that when I read the title of your thread. "hell" I thought "this ones really had a bad day."

Janos Wed 10-Sep-08 18:53:11

Nothing wrong with asking for support jojostar, butI think you are being a bit naive if you think a post like that will get a sympathetic hearing on here - especially when it's phrased in such a inflammatory way.

Snaf Wed 10-Sep-08 18:54:43

Your thread title does rather inhibit reasoned debate, jojostar. I assume reasoned debate was what you were after?

Chequers Wed 10-Sep-08 18:57:03

Sorry you are having a bad day jojo. You'll pobably get a mauling for posting here, maybe try posting it in relationships.


jojostar Wed 10-Sep-08 18:58:17

doesnt matter, just some mothers are like that and I'm sat watching two little girls be ripped apart by one and I'm angry and upset and to be quite honest I now feel 20 times worse sad thanks anyway twinsetandpearls and soon2be3..logging off

compo Wed 10-Sep-08 18:58:37

poor you sad sounds a dreadful situation sad

macdoodle Wed 10-Sep-08 19:08:07

hmmm how judgemental I'll guess you've never been the mother left doing all the day to day grind while dad swoops in being Mr Wonderful dad angry
Of course ALL us single mums are like that because all the dads are so bloody wonderful
Go post on Lone Parents sure you'll get loads of sympathy there angry

LittleBella Wed 10-Sep-08 19:10:01

Is that what he's told you?

ScottishMummy Wed 10-Sep-08 19:22:09

JoJo is that what he told you? many facets to every story.not easy being single mum either. try empathise with the female position too

deepinlaundry Wed 10-Sep-08 19:26:14

I can't help myself now-just got to wade in ( post wine),you haven't got a clue what it's like to be on the other side, to be portrayed as the lunatic bitter ex. Let me tell you what a relentless slog it is being a single parent, a hard , lonely exhausting task. The bitter ex is probably bitter- you are right, bitter that she has been left doing the hard work, bringing up children that she thought would be doing with her partner. You carry on getting sucked in by his side of it.

Surfermum Wed 10-Sep-08 19:30:58

She's not saying all mothers do that. She's ranting (understandably) about those who do.

Can you imagine being told you can't see your child - being dependent on someone else's goodwill as to whether or when you can? Pleading or arguing over every extra hour you spend with them because you only get to see them for 48 hours in 21 days? Being told you can speak to them in one half hour window per week - and then finding that the phone is never answered? It's utterly heartbreaking for the parent - and it's just horrible to have to sit and watch your partner going through it.

I have held my lovely, big, blokey dh when he's been breaking his heart because he was missing his little girl so much.

When I see him with dd, and what a great Dad he is, I will never understand how his x tried her best to prevent him having a relationship with their daughter.

ScottishMummy Wed 10-Sep-08 19:32:20

JoJo me thinkey he is spinning you a line.poor him downtroden dad,twisted saddo ex. oh aye

deepinlaundry Wed 10-Sep-08 19:36:16

No, thats it, the other women rarely do understand. .

bossykate Wed 10-Sep-08 19:39:18

are you in the british second wives club by any chance?

SpandexIsMyEnemy Wed 10-Sep-08 19:41:06


some mothers who are like that give the rest of us a bad name - BUT on the other hand you're hardly getting a neutral view and unbias story here are you - your OH will be making his EX out to appear bad - god knows mine is and I literally bend over back wards to accomodate him.

you're having a bad day but don't tar all of us with the same brush.

and don't assume that everything you're told is right either cos the chances are it's been told to you in a way which makes him sound better than is in the situation.

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