I feel awful writing this but here goes;
My baby girl is due at the end of the year and basically something is really bothering me about my FIL. I feel a bit worried when I think of leaving my future baby with him. I am not sure whether I am being daft or not.
About 5 years ago my niece was born, my in - laws looked after her a lot. As most babies do - she enjoyed kicking her legs up in the air with no nappy on. In a kind of joking way, my FIL said something like 'look at her - the slut'. (Although, he also used to say this about the dog when she rolled onto her back, wanting her belly rubbed.)
I just think this is an awful dirty word to describe a baby (even as a joke) and I can't seem to shake it off.
I would like my baby to be close to her grandparents, my MIL is such a lovely person but this comment 5 years ago has really put me off leaving my baby alone with him (for example if my MIL popped out to the shops).
My husband and I do not particularly like my FIL very much as he is very biggoted and annoying but we do tolerate him for short periods of time.
I don't know what to do. I'd feel awful telling my husband my concerns as I am talking about his father. I don't know how to bring it up. I know my husband had a normal childhood and didn't have any problems.
Am I being unreasonable to feel this way?
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123Louise123 · 08/09/2008 17:05
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