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trumpetgirl Sun 07-Sep-08 18:18:22

My dd has been to a few parties recently and I have noticed that some people have brought food for their children and I assumed that their child must have allergies or something.
I have just found out that actually they just don't want their child eating the crap party food.
Should I feel offended by this? Are they implying that I'm a terrible mother for letting my dd eat crisps and cake for her tea? If not, then why do they have a problem letting their kid eat it?
It's a one off, a treat. What's the flipping problem with that?!

ForeverOptimistic Sun 07-Sep-08 18:20:21

It is very rude. When ds was under 1 I always bought my own food for him. Once they are past this age you must accept that they will eat foods at parties that aren't 100% healthy, how old was the child?

wahwah Sun 07-Sep-08 18:20:31

I think it's bad manners to bring own food, but why does party food have to be so shit? Would it kill people to serve up healthier fare?

NoblesseOblige Sun 07-Sep-08 18:21:04

i would be offended if someone did this through fussiness, as oppose to dietary requirements. and i would never dream of doing it myself!

even extreme fussiness should be explained to the host so they can deal with it - i have had a child come to my dds party whose diet consists of about 2 things, full stop. i supplied those 2 things. no problem smile

FabioBadAssCat Sun 07-Sep-08 18:21:38

<scatters haribo and big macs around thread>

i've never seen that (apart from the allergic kids)
how oddddd

<slurps fruit shoot>

did you see cod's thread about the dreadful party guest

'where do you buy your food'
'mummy shops at twatrose'

He was about 7 ffs

TheArmadillo Sun 07-Sep-08 18:21:40

Unless they have a reason they can't eat the food e.g. allergies as you said then it is really fucking rude and YANBU. It shows a real lack of manners.

Also my sister had allergies as kid (she still has some) that meant my mum always had to provide special food and it is often really isolating and horrible for the child. I don't see why you would inflict that on a child when you didn't have to.

AbbaFan Sun 07-Sep-08 18:22:13

It's just bloody stupid IMO. I call them the rice-cake mom's - they carry them around everywhere with them wink

IDoEverything Sun 07-Sep-08 18:22:22

In my opinion these are the kind of mothers who will end up with older kids who cannot wait to get away from their parents and will soon be into all sorts after having suffered wuch a repressed chidhood.

Having said that, I ahve not ever seen anyone take their own food to a party!

FabioBadAssCat Sun 07-Sep-08 18:22:51

wahwah - because it's a party

bloomingfedup Sun 07-Sep-08 18:25:33

YANBU - Unless the child has an allergy then it is just bad manners. Kids love party food - it's a party. Rolls eyes.grin

2shoesisabirdkillerpart2 Sun 07-Sep-08 18:27:13

ds used to be really fussy. so I thought tough he doesn't eat. would never dream of doing that.

SunshineSmith Sun 07-Sep-08 18:29:08

I kind of really disilike when i get to a party and the host understanding of party food - is shitty cocktail sausages full of fat, rancid carrots and cheap cheese. I get well pissed off that party food in many houses equals shit crap.

Part food can be fun and healthy too!

wahwah Sun 07-Sep-08 18:30:16

FabioBadAssCat, surely it's not compulsory to serve children crap at parties? Even it was, times change. Even school dinners aren't total saturated fat, salt and reconstituted cockroaches any more.

trumpetgirl Sun 07-Sep-08 18:30:38

The kids are all 5 or 6 years old. I couldn't get over it. I would never make my child be the only one who couldn't have chocolate and cakes, she would feel so left out.
I agree that party food could be a bit healthier, but it never killed me grin
...saying that, I wasn't at a party every other week when I was young either!

MatNanPlus Sun 07-Sep-08 18:31:06

Only for allergy children have i done my own food and have made it as close to the the actual party food that some parents/children didn't even notice.

kid Sun 07-Sep-08 18:31:08

Of course its out of order for parents to bring food for their own kids. If the food bothers them that much, then don't let them go to the party or else provide food for everyone if they think they can do better!

FabioBadAssCat Sun 07-Sep-08 18:31:55

carrots have no place at a children's party
shitty cocktail sausages yes
cheap cheese yes (not likely to be eaten, why waste money)
jam sandwiches
pink wafer biscuits
fruit shoots
cadbury's fingers

FlightAttendent Sun 07-Sep-08 18:33:09

We don'[t even GO to parties. I absolutely blardy hated them ALL when I was a child and they are still shitola if the last one we went to was anything to go by.

You turn up
the mums are really scary
the house smells weird

Nobody is in uniform and nobody is supervising the horrible children who pick on you at school

the food is generally shit (cheese and pineapple stick anyone)

those little sausages {yak}

prawn cocktail crisps

and some game where you have to lob water at the grown ups. Some of whom you really feel hate you.
Then you don't get your prize even though you won (and got told off for cheating when you just didn't understand the rules) and that is not even mentioning the clown shock who is so unfunny that someones dad has to have a word and tell him to leave out the swearing.

The party bag is the ONLY GOOD BIT

God I feel better now. Sorry blush

wahwah Sun 07-Sep-08 18:34:01

Now you spell it out I am won over, esp. the cat food. Let them eat angel cake!

SunshineSmith Sun 07-Sep-08 18:34:48


FlightAttendent Sun 07-Sep-08 18:34:49

But no I would not take my own food, that is just rude and also if ds1 decides he is going to put me through 3 hours of sheer hell (yes he won';t go alone) then he can pay the price and eat the crap grin

expatinscotland Sun 07-Sep-08 18:35:42

it's rude.

why are there so many po-faces about?

ffs, you'd think i was back in America! at any rate i can now see where they got it from sad.

FabioBadAssCat Sun 07-Sep-08 18:37:45

lol poor flight attendant and her profane clown parties

You poor dear.
<passes over party bag>

i have been yoofed by wahwah

It is not compulsory to serve crap, nor was it in 1066 when I was young and we had such party games as knocke ye leggf from under ye cripple and pox chase, but children don't go to parties for the nutrition they go for FUN.

pointydog Sun 07-Sep-08 18:38:11

I have never heard the like. They do not sound like fun.

FabioBadAssCat Sun 07-Sep-08 18:38:24

and catfud, obviously

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