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To expect my sister to not act like she's the first and last pregnant woman on earth

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notsoteenagemum Sat 06-Sep-08 00:40:56

Just got back from family 'do' with sister who is 23 weeks pg. What a bloody fuss she was sat surrounded by cushions while her DP fetched like a dog. The minute the convo turned off her she would wince- why who knows.
To make matters worse her in-laws were there and she was being pathetic saying how she thought birth repulsive and how he would have to take the baby for 9 months after.
Her DP is on a v.good wage and has said she can give up work but she has made a huge fuss about how she has to work and how anything less than 30 hours is part-time. This is just how many hours y new job is and I have the DC's when I get home.

twinsetandpearls Sat 06-Sep-08 00:56:35

Is it her first pregnancy, I think you are being a little bit unreeasonable. If women are ever allowed divadom it must be during their first pregancy.

Saturn74 Sat 06-Sep-08 01:01:22

Sounds like she was just lapping up the attention while she can.

cornsilk Sat 06-Sep-08 01:02:18

You are being a bit mean.

notsoteenagemum Sat 06-Sep-08 01:03:00

I can forgive her for being excited and giddy and gushy but for just having a moan when she is healthy, I fnd too much, she is using it a a controlling tool which I find hard to stomach.
Would you honestly say you felt after ( months your job was done?

notsoteenagemum Sat 06-Sep-08 01:03:31

9 months

cornsilk Sat 06-Sep-08 01:04:00

She won't feel like that when she actually gives birth though.

twinsetandpearls Sat 06-Sep-08 01:05:35

I was going to say the same as cornsilk. Was it not just banter?

BlackEyedDog Sat 06-Sep-08 01:09:59

sounds like she just got on your norks tonight.

My sis was a lot like this, had us all running around carrying her bags for her etc. It was only after I had my own child I realised what a twittish diva she had been grin

notsoteenagemum Sat 06-Sep-08 01:11:32

Lets hope so! I just feel well there's enjoying the attention and anticipation, and then there is just milking it. When there are lots of people who would love to be in her position she should at least try and sound like its not a total incovenience.

aaaarrrgh Sat 06-Sep-08 09:08:25

ooo one of my mates is doing this....really getting on my nerves!

Feel for you!

bloomingfedup Sat 06-Sep-08 09:10:22

YABU. Let your sister enjoy and act like a diva - she has a shock ahead. grin

RubySlippers Sat 06-Sep-08 09:11:18

she may be having a rough pregnancy

her DH may like looking after her

why shouldn't she have some attention on her? It won;t last!

lulumama Sat 06-Sep-08 09:13:30

all first time mums, pretty much , act like the first and last pregnant woman on earth. some milk it more than others. it is a glorious time, you are in awe of your body and what it has done and created.. a bit of floating aroudn being demanding is to be expected...

if she does it second time, then you can be ticked off..

for now , smile sweetly. and ignore

lulumama Sat 06-Sep-08 09:13:52

<<ruby, how is my DN>>

RubySlippers Sat 06-Sep-08 09:16:11

<<on the mend thanks lulu>>yjjhg

lulumama Sat 06-Sep-08 09:17:07

good !

bythepowerofgreyskull Sat 06-Sep-08 09:18:47

yabu - for her this is the biggest thing that has ever happened. As it is for all of us first time round.
don't let it wind you up. just let her get on with it.

schneebly Sat 06-Sep-08 09:21:22

When I was pg with my DS1 I had no other topic of conversation and used to come home from work and go for 'my nap' grinblush

Oh how it all changed when I was pg with DS2 just 8 months after DS1 was born...grin

Chuffinnora Sat 06-Sep-08 09:23:40

My SiL was like this and now has the only baby ever to be born... despite evidence to the contrary.
Also my brother tends to hint that he loves his DS more than I could ever love my 2 children hmm.
He doesn't realise that I just don't talk about it constantly.

AbbeyA Sat 06-Sep-08 09:36:00

I think that it is very common. No doubt you won't be allowed to see the baby for the first 3 weeks so that she has time to get over the birth and 'bond'.

notsoteenagemum Sat 06-Sep-08 09:37:30

Its the way she talks about the baby as if it's an inconvenience- when it moves its gross, the birth is gross, she goes to work-it's too tiring, her DP really wants her to give up but she's not being tied down, bfing ties her to the baby. I could cope with her lying around and bossing everyone about if she was really excited but I wonder why she actually decided to have one in the first place.

MaloryDontDiveItsShallow Sat 06-Sep-08 09:40:04

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

TotalChaos Sat 06-Sep-08 09:40:23

i can understand you being frustrated by her being a bit of a silly bint, but YABU about the comments that she should give up work.

Bumperlicious Sat 06-Sep-08 09:47:03

I was miserable when I was pg, despite it all being planned, I found the movements gross and annoying when I was at work, was in a complete grump about how having a baby was going to change my life, was uncomfortable, tired basically just a whingebag!

Everything will be different when she actually has the baby, just let her get on with it it.

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