I have just returned to work part time and my parents are looking after my baby 2 days and the third day my baby goes to Nursery. The nursery has been fantastic, they have followed his routines, he sleeps very well there and loves it. Now, don't get me wrong, he loves his grandparents but my mum just doesn't keep to his routine. My husband arrives half an hour after our baby should have had his tea, to find his tea still cooling, nothings ready to be taken home etc etc. He doesn't sleep well there, in fact he doesn't have much sleep at all. They are the sort of parents who are easily annoyed and so I don't know what to say to them but having a baby who is so grumpy the next day is meaning my time with him is just not what it should.
I can't really afford to up the nursery sessions until March next year, as money is tight.
In great need of some advice mums!
YABU. A slightly late tea, minor disorganisation and an overstimulated baby are a very small price to pay for free childcare.
Oh dear, my parents are like this. I really appreciate them having DD but she is not their top priority when she is there and often is not fed on time or her sleeping/nap needs catered for. It is also hard to tell them anything because they are parents themselves and bought up 4 children. (Although now I can now see I was a little neglected as a child!)
I let DD go there for social time rather than when I'm working now because I would rather have the peace of mind (and a happy contended child) that paying a professional whose soul job it is to look after children brings.
when you are trying to get your child into a routine so they can sleep properly and not me grumpy its frustrating when its not followed.
apart from anything else they will grow up knowing that granny and grampa's house is where they can get away with stuff and when the kid grows up the grandparents will get annoyed that dgc is trying to get away with stuff!
how many times has this happened?
perhaps they are struggling with what they consider "early" tea.
i know my dm is the same but mine are obviously older.
annoying for your dh too as he is waiting to go home.
I used to go mad (not to their faces) with my in-laws they always just did their own thing including not (feeding them when out and not letting them sleep coz they wanted them to see the park or whatever)with the DCs despite what I said/did. Mine never had them because I was working just about once a week or for the weekend, because they wanted too and it gave me a break.
However they are Grandparents not nannies and you can't expect them to behave like nursery staff. They probably want to hae fun with their grandson.Once your baby is older he'll realise that they have different rules there and adapt.
The only thing I can suggest is that you say that he's been really tired and upset the next day and tug on their heart strings a bit. I did this when they insisted on giving DD a whole can of hotdogs for lunch-she was two. I said they made her sick and they never gave them again. Or give up work its not as bad as you think.
Thank-you so much for the advice! Going to try and relax a bit and see how the next few weeks go.......who needs sleep anyway! No really it should get better! Here's praying!
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