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To get irritated at people who continually preach about child 'rules' i.e. sleeping in with parents.

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tori32 Wed 03-Sep-08 20:35:22

I have just been on a different thread where someone has picked holes in the op without having any real info about her sleeping arrangments. Saying what is an 8 week old baby doing sleeping alone and not with the op.

To that I say to Greenmonkies some of us have very large babies who could tip a moses basket over at 8wks (yes, I am not exaggerating) She also was uncomfortable in the travel cot and was moved into her own room at 3mths. The full sized cot would not fit into our room. DH and I are both largish and would never risk having a baby sleep with us unless feeding.

As for SIDS, yes it is recommended, however, it isn't always possible. I also found that dd1s jealousy of the baby reduced dramatically once baby went in her own room. This meant less bad atmospheres for everyone.

So I say to all preachers- wind your**necks**in!

RubySlippers Wed 03-Sep-08 20:37:03

YABU starting a thread about a thread

FabioFlangeCat Wed 03-Sep-08 20:38:44

Did you say this on the thread you're talking about?

link, please.

K999 Wed 03-Sep-08 20:41:35

Popcorn anyone??? grin

iwantasecondone Wed 03-Sep-08 20:51:05

Hi tori! Will get back to you about a meet up!
Also people need to remember that it is UNSAFE for babies who have smoker parents to sleep in with parents...
But then again MN is a great place for an argument.

ScottishMummy Wed 03-Sep-08 20:51:56

do what you want without the need to criticise advice you have been offered.you did ask after all

you are being dreadfully rude

don't ask then get the hump when you don't likey the answer

so put yer teeth back in

LOL well you Did ask........

OneBoyOneGirl Wed 03-Sep-08 20:54:24

mm22bys Thu 04-Sep-08 07:57:23

We never had a moses basket, they are a con and a waste of money and last a baby how long? Our two were in a cot from when they were born

Some people have heaps of room, others don't.

The biggest factors to prevent cot death are back to bed and not smoking.

People do need to pull their necks in!

mm22bys Thu 04-Sep-08 07:58:05

Oh I mean the baby sleeping on its back!

hatrick Thu 04-Sep-08 08:04:41

Message withdrawn

AbbeyA Thu 04-Sep-08 08:08:06

If someone asks advice they should accept that some people are going to say things that they don't want to hear. There is no point in asking if they only want people to agree.
Everyone has their own ideas on childcare, what suits one person doesn't suit another. I find it irritating when one person takes the moral high ground and insinuates that you are harming your child emotionally because you don't follow their method.

SmugColditz Thu 04-Sep-08 08:12:06

It's not "people's rules", they are NHS safety guidelines. Flout them all you like, that's your decision, but nobody's going to stop mentioning them just because you don't like hearing about it.

PS VERY bad form to start a thread about another thread.

Bumperlicious Thu 04-Sep-08 08:22:26

Why didn't you say this on the original thread?

TheHedgeWitch Thu 04-Sep-08 08:56:34

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ScottishMummy Thu 04-Sep-08 09:07:28

dont traipse bad feeling from one thread to another.

BabiesEverywhere Thu 04-Sep-08 09:15:02

YABU
The SIDS guidelines apply to everyone, even those with large babies and small bedrooms.

Of course any parent may decide to ignore the SIDS guidelines for whatever reason they see fit but that doesn't negate the SIDS guidelines.

Lastly it is very childish to start a thread like this, aimed at one poster in particular. If you had an issue with a post on the other thread, you should address it there

theSuburbanDryad Thu 04-Sep-08 09:19:02

Also - there are plenty of ways to safely co-sleep even if you and your partner are overweight.

But at the end of the day you do what's right for you and your family - the same way we all do. There's no need to cat about dragging hassle and bad feeling all over the board. GreenMonkies was only quoting the FSIDS guidelines - there may be people on that thread who are unaware of them, or people lurking.

AbbeyA Thu 04-Sep-08 11:24:52

I don't think it is a good idea to start a thread about another thread. Looking back I see that I contributed and I haven't a clue what it is all about!!

tiredemma Thu 04-Sep-08 11:25:56

I may go and start a thread about this thread about the other thread.

DaphneMoon Thu 04-Sep-08 11:40:12

I cannot see what difference it makes if your baby is in your room or another. Once you are asleep if your baby suffers SIDS you will know no more about it if it is 2 foot away than if it is in another room surely?

I did have my DS in the same room for a few weeks but then put him in his own room, he got too big for the moses basket.

VictorianSqualor Thu 04-Sep-08 11:50:50

Daphne, if a baby sleeps near the parent they regulate their breathing on the parent's breathing, therefore helping to prevent SIDS.

Tori, If you have a problem with another poster, post it on the same thread, or at the very least link them to this thread explaining why you felt you couldn't discuss it there.

harpsichordcarrier Thu 04-Sep-08 11:57:04

YABU
having a baby sleep in the same room as its parents reduces the risk of the baby dying. from any perspective, it is crucial that parents know that.
also, YABU in slagging off another poster on a new thread. bad bad form tbh

DaphneMoon Thu 04-Sep-08 11:58:34

Well they would have to sleep very closely to hear me breathing, I am very quiet! grin

lulumama Thu 04-Sep-08 12:00:44

yeah, darn those pesky rules about reducing risk of SIDS and silly nonesense like that
hmm

better for parents to know the information that is out there, why it is recommended and tehn tehy can decide what to do

it is not preaching to talk about current guidelines and info

hanaflower Thu 04-Sep-08 12:01:13

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

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