I have a close friend I've known for years, + we both have two dc's of around the same ages.
We do all see each other a lot, but my friend's dd, (aged 9), never wants the sessions to end.
If I've had them at my house all day, which I quite often do as their mum works in the school holidays, she'll say to her mum as she comes to collect them late afternoon, "Can you just sit + have a cup of tea with "Onthepier" so we can play longer?"
There was one time recently when I'd looked after them all day, we'd all gone together to my friend's son's party, not due to finish until 6.30 pm, then she asks her mum if we can all go over + watch his brother open his presents in the evening! She'd asked my daughter first so she was pestering me too! I hesitated, but bearing in mind the dc's were back to school the next day, it was getting late + I had a lot to do, I said no. Could feel that my friend didn't really want to take up an evening either.
Then I've got my daughter crying + her friend looking at me as if I'm awful! Often she's run up to me after school before speaking to her mum, asking if they can all come round mine, when I've had a busy day + just need a few hours to sort stuff out. She then looks at her mum, who says "I don't know, it's up to "Onthepier", it really puts me on the spot!
My children don't seem that comfortable staying over there by themselves, otherwise that would be an option. Hers are more than happy to come to mine without their mum, but they do get every single toy out, meaning a huge clear up session later.
This has happened a lot now, sometimes I say yes + other times no, but I work part of the week myself + my time is precious!
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to say no? I then have two very upset children on my hands!!
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onthepier · 03/09/2008 16:46
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