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to think that my MIL should know my name?

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sherbetdipdab Tue 02-Sep-08 21:20:01

and that she shouldn't constantly call me by DH's ex-wife's name?

It really upsets me, but maybe I'm over sensitive?

JacobsPrincess Tue 02-Sep-08 21:22:29


but then my Grandmother calls me Holly, which is the name of my aunt's DEAD boxer dog...

(and my name isn't Holly btw)

greenandpleasant Tue 02-Sep-08 21:28:13

first sign of senility wink .... suggest you raise your concern about mil's failing mental faculties with fil and see if she keeps doing it!

RustyBear Tue 02-Sep-08 21:31:14

My MIL has called me Jill for 30 years now.
It's the name of her best friend.

Icanseethesea Tue 02-Sep-08 21:31:52


but my fil still calls me dh's ex fiancee's name, they split up 3 years before we got married 14 years ago!! grin

RubyRioja Tue 02-Sep-08 21:31:57

Teach your dcs to call her smelly granny

sherbetdipdab Tue 02-Sep-08 21:32:16

I burst into tears about it on Saturday, (in my defence I had a baby last monday) and DH went downstairs and spoke to her about it and she just told him that I'm being oversensitive about it. Its really bloody annoying though sad

I feel like a brood mare, only here to pop out babies like bubbles.

LazyLinePainterJane Tue 02-Sep-08 21:37:29

Well, unless she has dementia issues, her saying you are being oversensitive and not being sorry suggests to me she is doing it on purpose.

I second the smelly granny idea.

sherbetdipdab Tue 02-Sep-08 21:40:06

No dementia issues, she is as sharp as a tack

suwoo Tue 02-Sep-08 21:40:08

I thought it was bad that my MIL spelled my name wrong after 10 years!

Tortington Tue 02-Sep-08 21:41:16

she wouldn't be welcome in my house

nasty snidy bitch

MsHighwater Tue 02-Sep-08 21:41:34

The only appropriate reaction for a MIL to have on being caught calling her DIL by her ex-DIL's name is acute embarrassment, imo.

Mind you, my dh used to call me by his ex's name quite a lot. He hasn't done it for ages now, though.

Are there other issues with your MIL?

WilfSell Tue 02-Sep-08 21:41:53

Call her Bob until she relents.

Or Wilf grin

Tortington Tue 02-Sep-08 21:41:57

kids wouldnt call her granny either - she would be refered to as Jill

whatever her name is - call her Jill

NoMoreOlympics Tue 02-Sep-08 21:42:17

my FIL relentlessly calls me by the name of their dog

to be fair, the initial is the same hmm

sherbetdipdab Tue 02-Sep-08 21:48:27

To be honest she is German and doesn't speak English well, but well enough and after 2 grandchildren she should know my name at least.

But on Friday (I was 4 days post birth) she walked into my house and said 'Hello X-wife!' and then said 'doesn't the baby look like ex-wife' angry and it continued all weekend.

It makes me feel like I'm not good enough somehow, knowing someones name is the least you can do I think?

LazyLinePainterJane Tue 02-Sep-08 21:55:02

For some reason I have this image of Lois' mother from Malcolm In The Middle in my head! grin

Maybe you should call her Ida grin

She was a rude witch as well

TheNaughtiestGirlIsaMonitor Tue 02-Sep-08 21:57:11

Wow. That's insane! AFter two children!! It's like your husband switched wives late one evening under the cloak of darkness and nobody told her.

poppy34 Tue 02-Sep-08 21:57:52

painful old bag.. probably doing it for a rise.

like the idea of smelly granny.. or wrong name.

greenandpleasant Tue 02-Sep-08 21:58:00

she is a bitch! totally unnecessary to refer to ex-wife at any time and even more so at this point. saying the baby looks like her - even if she does mean you - is not on.

congratulations by the way!

Jaamy Tue 02-Sep-08 21:59:25

LOL @ Smelly Granny!

Is there someone that she really doesn't like? Did perhaps your FIL have a previous wife/girlfriend. Call her by a name that you know will really annoy her and see how she likes it.

NorkyButNice Tue 02-Sep-08 22:01:58

She is being downright rude!

My parents next door neighbour used to call my Dad Fred because his African name is "too complicated".

My Dad used to laugh it off but it really pissed me off so I always called him something different each time he spoke to me.

I shouldn't speak ill of the dead, but he really was a w4nker.

Carmenere Tue 02-Sep-08 22:04:06

Stand up to her. Say 'hey mil, I would be obliged that seeing as I have married your son and delivered two of your grandchildren, if you would make the effort not to call me by the name of my husbands ex-wife as I find it terribly offensive'.
That is straight to the point and not rude.
Really and truly it is my experience that nasty old bags respond well to being stood up to.

Sobernow Tue 02-Sep-08 22:04:21

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

QueenoftheWildThings Tue 02-Sep-08 22:09:53

Maybe not popular, but was she devastated when your dh split from his xw? My brother in law got divorced last year and I think my mil took it harder than anyone (she felt she failed somehow iyswim). Maybe she just doesn't want his previous failed relationship to reflect on he so has ignored ir? Not sure what I am doing defending ms-in-law, but hey....

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