to be v pissed off that dh has a condom in his wallet?

[petitmaman]

Found condom in dh's wallet this morning. we don't use them. i know he had one in his bed side table for years but why transfer it to his wallet? it is about 3 years out of date anyway and i dont think he would cheat on me.
the only thing i can think is that he wants to look the big man in front of his friends, but if that is it then that is seriously immature. and who looks through his wallet anyway? (apart from me )
i just find it really odd. thoughts please.

[pgwithnumber3]

I too would be pissed off, why not ask him why he has it in there?

[schneebly]

If it is 3 years out of date coud he have had it in there for years? How long have you been together?

[wabbit]

It's odd if you know he's not carried a Condom around before... you sure it's the one out of the bedside table?

Ask him!! Tell him you couldn't help noticing condom in his wallet and wondered what on earth you were supposed to think...

If there's nothing behind it he'll be kind of flattered that you're posessive over him. I would be if I were questioned on something like this.

( I was questioned about a bruise that looked a bit like a love bite on one of my norks when dp came home from a weekend with mates... it had been inflicted by my 2yo!! I was sort of flattered that dp looked so alarmed.)

[Ronaldinhio]

YANBU if you are in a committed relationship and don't use condoms and this is a new occurance.
I'd be asking:
Is it the same condom that was on his bedside table?
What age are his friends to be impressed by the ownership and possession of a condom? 10

Just front him up

[hecate]

you could always open the packet carefully, remove the condom and throw it away. Replace it with a note saying "If you are looking for your condom, it is in the bin"

[norksinmywaistband]

Why Are you going through his wallet? do you already have trust issues?

[OneBoyOneGirl]

YANBU - if this was my DH i would be asking him about it too

[wabbit]

lots of reasons to rummage in a dp's wallet though norks! Don't you ever have to? or DP rummage around in your handbag?

[findtheriver]

hmm - did he give permission for you to look in his wallet? If not, it's a tricky one, though I like hecate's suggestion!
If he knew you were going into his wallet, he presumably doesnt think there's anything to worry about, or is extremely forgetful!

[norksinmywaistband]

I don't think I have ever rummaged through my DH wallet in 15 years.
He may go into my handbag if I ask him to pass my purse or similar but generally would hand me the whole bag so I could retrieve my purse.

I have no reason to doubt him and he deserves his privacy as do I

[Ronaldinhio]

Why does someone always question the OP's reasons for being in a situation that is causing them distress?
What does it matter why she was in the wallet? Unless of course you are suggesting that she should always trust her instincts..?
It isn't for us to defend someone's supposd level of privacy that is between the Op and her DP
IMHO

[norksinmywaistband]

I suppose, We only have joint accounts so his cards are the same as mine and all cash is kept in a pot and we just take what we need.
I just didn't look for an innocent expaination for going through someone elses wallet

[Granny22]

My DH carried the one condom in his wallet for so long that you could see the imprint in the soft leather. When asked WHY? he claimed that, as a good Scout, he should always have a condom in case he needed to carry water or protect valuables whilst crossing a river. He got a new wallet and decided to make a balloon of the condom. It burst immediately.

[Ronaldinhio]

Also apologise for being so judgey

[mamalovesmojitos]

lol Granny22

[Beaches]

Just ask him, that is the hardest thing to do which usualy makes it the right thing also!! I would never check my partners phone or wallet, I did with a previous partner, that was because I did not trust him...
I was right not to!

[petitmaman]

hecate-brilliant!
do kind of have trust issues but trying to get over them, things like this do NOT help. so yes Norks, to be honest there was no innocent explaination for being in his wallet other than i am very nosey but not sure that is really the point.
he is out tonight (taken wallet, obviously) but if i am being brave will ask him tomorrow. thing is he is not just going to say "well, i was hoping to get lucky" is he?
btw, condom in wallet recent thing, have been togther 9 years. surely if he was going to use it he would have bought new ones?!

[HonoriaGlossop]

I would have a thing to say about that, certainly. Odd.

Hecate has a brilliant idea there though, would be seriously tempted

[nobodysfool]

You must ask him about it.
Sounds a bit dodgy to me i would not be impressed if i was in your position.
Do you have any reason to not trust him?

[petitmaman]

about a year ago found out he had a two week fling while away but that was 4 years ago now. befor ethat trusted him completely. dont THINK he would do it again but hard to get rid of seeds od doubt IYSWIM

[findtheriver]

I think you will need to talk to him then. As he had a fling in the past, he should at least understand why you're worried.

[SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore]

i always used to carry one about in my bag when i was going out with friends. never for me even if i was single i dont like one night stands but for my friends if they needed one. dh has never minded. could it be that?

[petitmaman]

You're right I do. but to be honest not sure it will help the SEEDS OF DOUBT. wish me luck......