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To risk offending the in-laws?

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NorkyButNice Fri 29-Aug-08 14:00:29

I should start by saying that my in-laws are great - I get on really well with them and would never want to offend them intentionally!

They very kindly bought us a highchair for DS when he was born - one of those Dr Evil style Bloom Fresco chairs they sell in John Lewis. It looks great but is horribly impractical and not overly comfortable for DS if his wriggling and complaining is anything to go by.

DH wouldn't let me buy an Ikea cheapie as he said his parents would be offended - fair enough I thought so we've made do.

However - SIL is pregnant and they've told us that they're going to buy the same chair for them since we "loved it so much" - I feel like I really ought to say something now so they don't waste their money when the IKEA one is so much better...but should I tell SIL and let her turn down the offer or be upfront with MIL?

Lauriefairycake Fri 29-Aug-08 14:01:43

can't you just pass yours on to them and say he's just grown out of it around the birth

NoMoreOlympics Fri 29-Aug-08 14:02:59

Are you still using yours?

Could you pass it along as an "heirloom"?

Then they don't waste their money on a new one and you get rid.

Everybodys a winner (except your SIL lol)

AvenaLife Fri 29-Aug-08 14:03:26

Why don't you give it to her as your little one will grow out of it soon and will need a small table and chair incase he wriggles out and falls? wink

I'd phone sil and tell her you didn't want to offend mil.

Blu Fri 29-Aug-08 14:26:13

I would tell her to consult SIL before buying anything at all....SIL can then make her own mind up.

NorkyButNice Fri 29-Aug-08 14:45:52

Passing ours on is a great idea (except for the fact that SIL is also lovely and deserves not to be stuck with this thing!).

DS will have outgrown it though by then, so if they DO want it then it makes sense for them to have ours.

I don't want to put SIL in the awkward position of knowing that we don't like it, when MIL thinks it's been great.

cheesychips Fri 29-Aug-08 14:59:36

I LOVE mine. Your SIL may too. No reason to suspect she wont get on with it - just because you didn't. Just a thought

jennieflower Fri 29-Aug-08 15:32:13

You could ask them to buy one for me instead! I love them but I've overspent in a big way so I don't think DP's going to share my enthusiasm.

biscuitsmustbedunkedintea Fri 29-Aug-08 15:34:34

Agree with cheesychips. I don't have one but friend does and she adores hers. Maybe sound SIL out first

CuckooSplodgeandTubs Fri 29-Aug-08 15:35:50

Your SIL may think they're great. Her child may sit still, or at least, sit still whilst eating...

NorkyButNice Fri 29-Aug-08 15:49:13

DS uses the Ikea highchair at nursery and at my parents when we've visited and he sits perfectly still - I'm not sure if it's because of his big nappies but he never manages to sit straight upright in his highchair, always ending up at an uncomfortable angle or slipped down against the front bar.

I also think there are too many nooks and crannies for food to get stuck in!

cheesychips Fri 29-Aug-08 16:33:01

Just don't make the decision for her.

By all means suggest that your pil may want to wait until the baby is born so that your sil can try the baby in yours first to see if she loves it as much as you do wink

Flibbertyjibbet Fri 29-Aug-08 16:38:57

Firstly, ask sil if she would like it.

If yes, then prob solved.

If no, - why don't you say to mil that you've noticed a lot of new desings/styles of highchairs since you got yours - that the market has 'moved on' rather like prams?

pamelat Fri 29-Aug-08 18:47:23

I would try saying that whilst you love it, that DS has got used to the ones that they use at nursery and that you may get him one of them and SIL can have your nice one?

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