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Jux Fri 29-Aug-08 13:46:09

Dd has friend over unexpectedly, need to give her lunch, her mum’s picking her up at 1:50. I have to go to the shops, drop some stuff off at friend’s house – should take about 30mins. Go out in plenty of time. Drop stuff off at friend’s (they’re out so think I’ll drop in at home on way to shops and phone and say what I’ve done – no answer, no BT answer). Go off to shops. Bump into woman I know vaguely, say hi, end up having long ‘chat’ (she talks, I listen for about 20mins). In a rush now, go to butcher’s, ask for liver, not ready yet so I go to other shop. Get caught in longish queue, have quick chat with guy on checkout (he’s at college, course going well). Leave shop for butcher’s. Bump into someone I know vaguely who talks at me for a while. Get to butcher’s, long queue, one person making lunches so people there are waiting for sandwiches etc. It’s going to take a long time and no one else around behind the counter. Butcher appears, serves guy in front of me; there’s a problem. Butcher and sandwich-maker enter into long dialogue together to sort out problem. Eventually it’s my turn. Get home as fast as I can. Can’t find my key, ring doorbell, wait. No one comes. Eventually find my key, get in, start unpacking shopping in state of panic as no idea what time it is and dd’s friend’s mum is expecting me to have fed her before she gets picked up. My 83yo mother, as I get in the front door, appears and launches into a story of a horrible operation my uncle had a few years ago. I cannot concentrate, I am trying to put stuff away and cannot concentrate on her ghastly tale. DH comes in and immediately launches into some tale about dd and the pond, very long winded and I want him to just tell me what the problem is – has she fallen in, has her friend fallen in, have they poisoned the water, have all the fish died etc. Both girls appear, both jumping in and telling me stuff too (about a secret game they can’t tell me about?!). At which point I said, loudly and firmly, “Stop, I cannot think, you are all talking at once, please tell me what you want in your sandwiches and everyone just give me a break, let me get on with what I am doing.” Silence falls. The girls answer. DH leaves the room in a strop. The girls take their cheese rolls and go. Mum’s head is buried in the paper. I make a cup of tea, take it into the sitting room, apologise to dh, ask what’s wrong with the pond? (there’s a hole in it somewhere). Peace.

AIBU to ask one person, just one person in my family, to say hello before they bombard me? Or even ask if I want a bit of help? Or at any rate, not to stand about in front of the fridge and the food cupboard so I have to keep saying excuse me in order to put the shopping away, all whilst they vomit words at me? Yes I know IABU, but I wanted to rant.

LoveMyGirls Fri 29-Aug-08 13:48:40

Actually I don't think yabu I understand where you're coming from. Back to school soon!

Libra1975 Fri 29-Aug-08 13:49:06

I dont think you are being unreasonable at all, if they don't say hello they could have at least started to help you unpack the shopping.

Libra1975 Fri 29-Aug-08 13:49:08

I dont think you are being unreasonable at all, if they don't say hello they could have at least started to help you unpack the shopping.

isaidno Fri 29-Aug-08 13:49:24

multi tasking; everyone expects you to do it so they don't have to.

HonoriaGlossop Fri 29-Aug-08 13:51:53

or you could have said "DH, can you make the girls some sandwiches while I chat to them?"

Or you could have said to any one of the people you met while out, "sorry, can't chat, I'm in a hurry"

I think you are in danger of straying in to Martyr territory


bethdivine Fri 29-Aug-08 14:02:59

take a step back and think ah how lovely I have all these people at home who can't wait to see me as they want to tell me their news as I'm that important to them all smile - then eye up the bottle of wine in the fridge and count the hours till you can have a well deserved glass!

RubySlippers Fri 29-Aug-08 14:04:26

what Honoria said

Libra1975 Fri 29-Aug-08 14:14:03

The question the OP posted was is she unreasonable to expect a hello or at least an offer of help. Whatever other course of action/conversation she could have taken it doesn't negate the fact they should have had some manners by saying hello or helping I don't see why expecting these small courteseys is straying into martyr territory.

fizzbuzz Fri 29-Aug-08 14:19:27

Oh God, eveyone talking at once, all at you is a delight!

I used to pick my ds up from my mums twice a week. Ds would be watching tv. I would be talking to mum, she was slighty deaf, so i would raise my voice a bit. So ds would turn up tv, so I would raise my voice a bit more, ds would turn up infintum

Db would appear (he always talks at top of his voice) mum and db would start having argument, ds would turn up tv....etc etc

Arrrrrrrrrrrrrgh! I would run away feeling insane.


Jux Fri 29-Aug-08 18:18:52

Oh I didn't expect any replies!

Yeah, I know that I'm lucky having them all around, and my best friend also tells me I'm lucky to be needed/wanted, and I know I am really. It's just that today, no one was really talking to me, they were talking AT me. It felt like having a thousand little imps pulling at my clothes iyswim, or being the wall on an assault course! Walking is tough for me so they all know I'm going to be knackered after a trip to the shops anyway.

Anyway I really did only want a quick rant and get it out of my system, so thanks for reading, and thanks for

Now dh has gone off with his band to do a gig, dd and another friend are closeted in the bathroom 'making over' dolls, I've got dinner cooking and I can finally sit down and have that glass. Whew.

lou33 Fri 29-Aug-08 18:40:36

not unreasonable at all, i find myself saying similar quite often

asicsgirl Fri 29-Aug-08 18:47:42

lol at 'thousand little imps'. reminds me of going to brownies, when i arrived there would always be six or seven literally tugging at leader's clothes going "brown ooooowl! brown ooooowl!" even at the age of seven i wondered how she could stand it grin

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