My MIL and new toy boy boyfriend are staying, over from USA.
Bit of background. MIL is 75, boyfriend is 56. A bit of an age gap. Now MIL is quite young at heart for her age, or likes to think so. She is also almost profoundly deaf - she can hear something like 3 pitches and thats it, which makes communication with her quite hard. And she has become quite reliant on her boyfriend for communication.
DH has already taken a dislike to him, before he got here to be honest. He has only met him once, two years ago when they first got together. He thinks this bloke is taking his mother for a ride, and does not treat her well, he comes and goes as he pleases and disappears for weeks at a time, claiming work (to be fair his work does take him away a lot). DH does not approve of the relationship and I think it is inevitable he will look for things to fault.
I on the other hand, whilst I understand what DH feels, have constantly said, lets see what he is like, he is probably really nice, your mum seems happy, blah blah blah. I have really tried to think positively about this.
Both of us understand that this relationship is happening whether we like it or not, and his mother is old enough to make her own decisions, have some fun etc etc etc.
Anyway, the point of this:
They went to bed last night at 9pm as they were both tired (they have been in UK for 2 week and claim no jetlag ). They are sleeping in our front room on a sofa bed. We knew they would go to bed early as MIL has always done, her loss of hearing makes her very tired. Fair enough, we have tv in our room, and a laptop etc.
This morning MIL got up and went to loo, did not acknowledge us, but did not have her hearing aids in so was not an issue. I took DH to work at 8:40am, had day off work myself, got back at 9:15am after going to shops. MIL was up, in dressing gown, they had both been up and had toast and tea, and her boyfriend had gone back to bed. She said she would go and see what he was up to, and the door was closed. MIL resurfaced about 45 mins ago, showered, dressed, back into living room, door shut. I have minor conversation with her about breakfast, DD being cute prior to this.
Her and boyfriend then get up, and leave the house, walk down the stairs very quietly with her asking him if he has taken the pills yet.
not one word to me, no good morning, no, we are popping out, nothing. Not a fucking word.
I look out of the window to see him pulling off in the car, and he looks up I shake my head at him, disapprovingly, and a minute late MIL comes in and says, we are popping out and will be back at 1pm.
We have arranged to meet DH from work at 1pm, and we had arranged to have lunch at home before we meet him! So I ask what they are doing about lunch, they will eat out, thanks all the same.
I sort of expect this from MIL, she has tbeen deaf for a long time and sort of lives in a little bubble. But for her boyfriend to say nothing at all, well for even her to not say bye to say goodbye. I found it all rather fucking rude. I have not really liked him, have found him a tad rude on occasion but put it down to being shy, since he has been here, have just got on with him. Now I fear I am starting to dislike him.
AIBU? I expect so. But I am not a fucking hotel.
So, AIBU to be annoyed?
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PavlovtheCat · 29/08/2008 11:42
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