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Message to the mother in Starbucks in Derby , if you are a mnetter. Please don't call your child....

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AvenaLife Tue 26-Aug-08 17:27:07

stupid or a weirdo. It's really not very nice and it made my son and I really sad to hear this. sad Also, please do't rush her when she's eating because you have things to do. Telling her to hurry up 7 times in 5 minutes is OTT. Would it have killed you to be patient? It was not as if she was eating slowly though was it? Then you moaned at her for getting chocolate under her fingernails.

Rant over.

bluebell82 Tue 26-Aug-08 17:32:07

that women obviously is intent on giving her dd a nice complex! Poor thing, I hate it when moms are mean to their kids in public, it's one thing disciplining your child but not in a horrible mean bullying way, I hate it when kids are smacked in public too - not that I'm condoning it at home but the shame of being belted by a thug of a parent is terrible!

bluebell82 Tue 26-Aug-08 17:32:10

that women obviously is intent on giving her dd a nice complex! Poor thing, I hate it when moms are mean to their kids in public, it's one thing disciplining your child but not in a horrible mean bullying way, I hate it when kids are smacked in public too - not that I'm condoning it at home but the shame of being belted by a thug of a parent is terrible!

DrNortherner Tue 26-Aug-08 17:33:24

The people who jusge the most know the least...

clumsymum Tue 26-Aug-08 17:38:39

Oh avenaLife, how awful. That woman could never be a Mnetter tho, we would never do that.

Hijack BTW, how was your summer. I found a lovely student to help us out, in the end.

2shoes Tue 26-Aug-08 17:40:31

wow all that in a 5 minute snapshot of someones life.

AvenaLife Tue 26-Aug-08 17:40:56

I probably do know nothing about her but there's things a parent should never say to their child (I hate you, you're ugly, you're stupid/useless). I don't think I'm wrong in saying that these words make an impact on that child and affect their self esteem for a very long time.

I couldn't give two hoots about why she said these things and I'm not judging her as a mother, just what she said. The poor child looked very miserable. No one has the right to make a child feel this way. It's never acceptable to make a child feel like crap.

I think mothers are often critical of their daughters, I know my mother was. She used to be really ukind to me and I've never forgoten her saying I was fat (I'm a size 10) or smacig me across the face when I was afraid to go dow an escalator.

southeastastra Tue 26-Aug-08 17:41:16

oh god butt out of people's lives noseache

snarky Tue 26-Aug-08 17:42:34

Hmmmm northerner, normally I'd agree but in this instance it seems fairly clear cut. Sometimes only an imbecile could fail to make a judgement.

AvenaLife Tue 26-Aug-08 17:42:54

Hi Clumsymum. I'm pleased you got it sorted. We just pottered around the house, there's ot alot to do over the holidays. Ds starts his new school on Thursday so I'm job hunting to see what I can find incase I can't go back to nursing.

2shoes Tue 26-Aug-08 17:43:40

I never get to notice these things as I am normally to busy feeding dd. were you not busy being a perfect mum with your child

dereelicte Tue 26-Aug-08 17:44:44

lolo SEA

<<vows to call DCs 'noseaches' when they are next eating slowly in a restaurant of hawk-eyed MNers>>

stroppyknickers Tue 26-Aug-08 17:45:24

I'm with Starbucks lady (sorry) Sitting with a child eating a muffin crumb by crumb when you have a whole list of stuff to do is excrutiating. I average one 'hurry up' every 30 seconds...Not sure about stupid but probably if I knew you were listening grin

AvenaLife Tue 26-Aug-08 17:45:33

He was next to me reading and having a snack.

I'm far from perfect by the way but I would never speak to him like this. Even ds overheard.

AvenaLife Tue 26-Aug-08 17:47:01

It was the wierdo that confused me. The stupid just pissed me off. There are worse things to do to a child, the little girl was about 6 and looked so upset. sad

AbbeyA Tue 26-Aug-08 17:47:29

If you don't have time I would suggest that you don't go in for a muffin in the first place!

Janni Tue 26-Aug-08 17:47:37

In these situations I always give the mum a big smile as I'm leaving and say 'you have a lovely child'.

stroppyknickers Tue 26-Aug-08 17:48:47

LOL Abbey. Will get biscuit next time. Or huge gold coin.

clumsymum Tue 26-Aug-08 17:49:23

But don't you find that repeatedly saying 'hurry up' achieves nothing? In fact, I swear that ds actually goes slower if I keep saying hurry up, so I just get more exasperated.
I've tried to stop myself doing it.

helsy Tue 26-Aug-08 17:49:32

Context context context. What else do you know about their lives? Tap all.

WilyWombat Tue 26-Aug-08 17:49:39

See I was just about to say "you are so going to be flamed" went off to get a sarnie and its already happening. wink

You have 2 choices now either stand your ground...in which case get ready for the personal insults to start or get the hell out

Which ever you choose - good luck grin

AvenaLife Tue 26-Aug-08 17:49:51

I'll remember that Janni. smile

I agree Abbey. She wasn't a slow eater though.

I've got to go, I promised ds could use the laptop. Shall be back later to hear your comments, nice or otherwise.

AvenaLife Tue 26-Aug-08 17:50:53

I will be back to stand my ground Wily. wink

clumsymum Tue 26-Aug-08 17:51:21

Mind you, ds would gobble down a muffin in about 4 mouthfuls.

WilyWombat Tue 26-Aug-08 17:53:22

LOL you mad person...they are going to swoop on you as though you have been personally clubbing baby seals rather than making a casual observation about the possible effect of someones parenting style on their child grin

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