I have always done a mixture of spoon feeding and BLW. When me and dp go out with dd (10 months)to a restaurant, we make sure we order something she can eat as well.
Then we just put it on her highchair tray and let her get on with it.
So if we go to the local carvery, we give dd lots of different vegtables, yesterday we went to a Tapas restaurant and she tried a little bit of what we had (as long as it was suitable). She had fun and tried new and different flavours.
But other people seem to have a problem with feeding her like this, and along with the nasty looks I get, people also make snide comments like 'shouldn't she have a bowl', 'can't she eat from a spoon?'.
This makes me feel like a bad parent, so am I being unreasnable in feeding her like this?
How does it make you feel like a bad parent? If she was choking and you ignored her, that would be bad parenting. The rest is all pox. Just smile beatifically at them and invite them to marvel at her hand-eye co-ordination as she splats them in the eye with pasta.
Some people will just give nasty looks to babies in restaurants full-stop especially if they are there in the evening. Nothing to do with how baby is fed. But I am astounded that other restaurant guests would come up and ask whether or not she should have a bowl and/or spoon. Nothing to do with BLW - it is just rude. OTOH if you were having soup, then yes, I could see that that would cause comments.