For the past 3 years DH and I have been going to a friend (of his) and his partner for a BBQ August Bank Holiday weekend.
Year one I was 8M pg and it was V hot, I really just wanted to stay home and eat chocolate but we went anyway. No chairs free in their garden, no shade to stand in and a line of people at the BBQ for food that was being cooked an a tiny grill with 20 people all wanting feeding! No one introduced us to anyone else (they all know each other) and not one of them offered me a seat.
We left after 30 mins with me appologising but explaining I was not feeling well. I did not feel too guilty tbh as no one had even offered me a drink!
Year 2 very similar. 11m DD sat on blanket on the lawn (I took our own following the previous year!), we drank our own water and got a sausage in a bun about 2 hours later.
This weekend. We took our own chairs and a small one for DD. We were given drinks and asked what we would like to be cooked for us....lovely! Except when DH and I were playing with DD and trying to make conversation with some of the other people (still no idea who they are after 3 years!) someone else sat in our seats despite the fact my bag had been on one of them and they used DDs chair as a side table and the food got snaffled by someone else!
I am not a shrinking violet, I can make conversation with people I don't know but I finally snapped today! Why should I keep buying gifts and wine etc for people who don't actually care enough about their guests to even offer them a drink! The trip there and the time spent used up the whole day.
So aibu? Would you make sure you were unavailble next time?
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To pretend to be busy next time these people invite us over?
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callmeovercautious · 24/08/2008 21:12
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