to sent DH (42) and his childless, batchelor mate off to bed like a couple of teenagers after they'd been crashing round the kitchen, belching and generally the worse for wear, from 2am until 3.30 when I could stand it no longer?

[fruittea]

I mean, honestly. DH never does this...unless he's with this particular mate, when he suddenly regresses about 20 years and becomes a student again. All the old catch phrases, impressions and silly noises (iykwim) get churned out and they are generally very silly - particularly with a gallon of beer inside them.

So at 3.30 this morning, after trying very hard to block it out and get back to sleep since 2.00 when they rolled in, I went down and told them to stop acting like a couple of teenagers and get to bed.

This is with the DC in bed asleep too, mind you. Luckily they didn't wake up but I'd hate them to see their DF in that state.

So was I unreasonable? They see each other several times a year, mostly when DH goes to stay with him. Should they not have showed more respect for sleeping wife/children, maybe stayed out another hour if they needed more farting and belching time together, or should I have been more generous?

[WideWebWitch]

If it's not often then I think you should have either left them to it or given them some large bottles of water and ibuprofen to take before bed

[fruittea]

Yes, maybe. That's what I'm wondering now. But after the n'th time of nearly going back off to sleep and getting woken by another stage belch (they couldn't be bothered to shut the kitchen door between visits to the loo of course) I saw red. I'm still fuming. But am being kind and creeping around for their benefit!

[WideWebWitch]

If it were my dh I'd bank considerable brownie points by:

a) not minding - hey it works both ways and he doesn't mind if I go out with friends

b) letting them sleep

c) making them breakfast

d) being nice and saying you're glad they had such a lovely time

Bet he's as grateful as anything! Because

a) it's an old, old friend and being 42 doesn't mean you don#t do silly things sometmes

b) it's not a regular thing

c) he didn't do anything terrible really, they just got carried away.

[kitsmummy]

Aaah, I don't think you did anything wrong in asking them to shut up a bit. It's not as if you had a go at them going out or anything, just that you judged 1.5 hours of being overly noisy and keeping you awake as enough, fair dos i think, i'd have done the same.

[fruittea]

I've been very good about the whole thing, you'll all be pleased to hear! DH doesn't remember being sent to bed like a schoolboy but his friend was a bit sheepish when I took him a cup of tea at about 10.30. I made them a fry-up and lots of tea and coffee and have banked mucho brownie points

[kerryk]

my dh did something similar on thurs night. was supposed to be playing snooker but instead got plastered and rolled in at stupid o' clock.

did i mind? not at all!!! i gave him a long lie and made sure i listened to all details of his night out, then dropped it into conversation that i am going out next saturday with the girls

[WideWebWitch]

well done fruittea, you have indeed now got a lot of points in the brownie point bank and pretty much a get out of jail free card