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AIBU to think that once you have paid your childcare, its not really worth working.? Is it that you just don`t want to look after your own kid. prefering to stick them in daycare as soon as the shine wears off, it really bugs me!

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discusturd Sun 17-Aug-08 17:48:29

Some go from 7-6 and never see there parents, I know I will get slated but in the nursery I work some kids hardly know who their parents are.

GordonTheGopher Sun 17-Aug-08 17:49:35

Yay I'm going to be the first to say...

Pass the popcorn!

Always wanted to do that.

onlyjoking9329 Sun 17-Aug-08 17:51:20

hope you have your hardhats to the ready

RubySlippers Sun 17-Aug-08 17:51:43


i hate threads like this - calculated to start a fight and nothing more

<<takes some of Gordon's popcorn>>

RubySlippers Sun 17-Aug-08 17:52:49

yes - i stuck my kid in childcare because the shine had worn off hmm hmm hmm

hf128219 Sun 17-Aug-08 17:53:15

Well I go back to work in January and full time childcare will cost me 30% of my take home pay. Therefore it is 'worth' working from a financial point of view.

I have seen some parents who look after their children full time (for whatever reason) telling them to 'shut up' etc - in those instances that cannot be good for the child either.

I ( and my dh) went to boarding school from the age of 11 - we both have very close relationships with our families.

gagarin Sun 17-Aug-08 17:54:04

It depends. Sometimes there may be an element of truth in what you say.

BUT there are plenty of other jobs where in order to be able to go back to work later on it is worth earning no money now. Jobs where there is a clear hierachy & if you are not there you don't get promoted.

findtheriver Sun 17-Aug-08 17:54:30

Oh do fuck off.
And get another job you hypocrite.

LittleMyDancingForJoy Sun 17-Aug-08 17:54:34

tin hats at the ready grin

wonderstuff Sun 17-Aug-08 17:54:47

WOw someone really wants a fight this evening, of course yabu. My childcare costs £42 a day, three days a week, I earn 900, I get a payrise every year, and I'm putting in to a pension so even if I was only breaking even I would be better off long term with childcare/work. I love my dd, but also my job.

BTW, what are you doing with your children when you are working at the nursery? When is it acceptable for mums to go back to work in your twisted 1930's universe?

spicemonster Sun 17-Aug-08 17:54:53


trip trap

pagwatch Sun 17-Aug-08 17:55:12

for some people childcare is a small proportion of what they would earn.For some the few quids difference between what comes in and what goes on childcare is the difference between a decent life and financial meltdown.
So is your premis that wrap around childcare is OK if you earn a fortune but not OK if the little bit extra is the difference between solvent and not?

discusturd Sun 17-Aug-08 17:55:41

I have seen the threads too. But I stand by what I say I am not goading anyone, just want to know are there that many well paid jobs that a baby can be put in full day care to justify the mother working. One mum at our nursery is a resseptionist (sp) I know she must pay more in childcare fees than she gets, why???????? ffs

IAteRosemaryConleyForBreakfast Sun 17-Aug-08 17:56:03

[glances at moon]


BouncingTurtle Sun 17-Aug-08 17:56:22

YABU - you have no idea what the finances are for any of your parents and it is none of you fucking business anyway.
Do your job and keep your judging to yourself.

WideWebWitch Sun 17-Aug-08 17:56:44

7-6, is that all?

I drop mine at 5am and collect about 9pm ish. If I can, sometimes I leave them overnight.

And I definitely work to avoid spending time with my children. And my husband, come to that.

theSuburbanDryad Sun 17-Aug-08 17:56:46


wonderstuff Sun 17-Aug-08 17:56:53

£900 a month that is, not exactly loaded grin

GreenMonkies Sun 17-Aug-08 17:56:55

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IAteRosemaryConleyForBreakfast Sun 17-Aug-08 17:57:24

discusturd, perhaps you should just spend your spare time reminding yourself how lucky the kids in your care are, to have someone like you who really does care for them, eh?


BouncingTurtle Sun 17-Aug-08 17:57:49

WWW - can you stick your DH in to nursery???

Hmm tempting grin

olympicsnotfederer Sun 17-Aug-08 17:58:03

in some jobs, taking an extended career break is doom for your long-term prospects

who wants to study for years to throw it all away? And why should you do that if you want kids too?

some people are willing to "invest" in childcare for a few years, they are not tiny babies for long and they are soon doing lots of their own thing

happyhoney Sun 17-Aug-08 17:58:06

I think you ABU. I don't think there are many parents who put their kids in childcare because they don't want to look after them. For some people there is no choice they have to work to pay the bills, also in some jobs you can't afford to not work as it will be difficult to return to it - may have to retrain etc.
I am at home full time with my kids and we are just about scraping by but both my kids have attended nursey for some sessions as IMO it is good for them and I have no help, DH works long hours etc etc
I hopw I am never in situation where I have to put kids in full time childcare but many people are!

OneBoyOneGirl Sun 17-Aug-08 17:58:19


My kids don't go to nursery yet, but my DD soon will for a few hours, and i would put them in nursery for a few hours a week working or not as they don't have much chance to mix with other kids and nursery i feel would benefit them in that way.

not because i don't want them at home or cause the 'shine has worn off' pmsl.

TheHedgeWitch Sun 17-Aug-08 17:59:04

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