I'll try & keep it short.
Dh & his dad worked together in the building trade.
We all know it's going down the swanny so dh jumped ship & got himself employment elsewhere (he was self employed & his dad started off as an employee & when he saw that he could get half the cash instead of a wage he became self employed).
Anyway, as I said, dh left, but his dad continued in the trade. I have to point out here that when they got contracts it was dh who looked for them chased them & finally bagged them, he was in the trade before his dad was & had got a good reputation solely on his work carried out & by word of mouth, he never had to advertise.
So now dh has left just over 6 months & he still has people calling him to do small jobs. He can fit them in in the evenings & weekends and it's good to have a wee bit of extra cash (just a wee bit by the time he's paid tax etc but it's still extra).
Now his dad is running short of work & my darling husband wants to give his dad the work he has lined up for the next 4 weekends... saying he feels bad that he has plenty of work & his dad has none.. I understand where he is coming from & think he's very kind, but I also think that if his dad was that worried he would get off his ass & look for the work the way dh had to do when it was his only income, not sit at home & watch TV like his dad has been doing for almost 2 weeks now.
I also told dh that people called him & asked him to do the jobs, if they wanted his dad they would've asked his dad!!
We sort of had a bit of a row as I said he shouldn't hand the jobs over to his dad. he should think of himself, as when he changed jobs he took a big loss per week to have a steady income, instead of reasonable amounts every few months & not knowing where the next cheque was coming from. I even got a job too (previously I had been a SAHM for 6 years)
Do I sound unreasonable wanting dh to hold on to the work that people have specifically asked him to do? Or should he give his dad the work so he will have something to do & won't have to go looking for it?
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WallOfSilence · 11/08/2008 22:26
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