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to want to wrap my babies in cotton wool and take them to live on a utopian island far far away from anything horrid ever?

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broccolispears Mon 11-Aug-08 20:29:31

Does anyone else find it heartbreaking watching their children take their first fledgling steps away from you and get knocked back?

Today at a play centre, dd tried a few times to play with other children and got pushed over and told to go away. I know worse things happen, and I'm probably being a bit of a wet hen but oh, I could have cried for her. She's only 2.3 - a group of about 5 children came racing and giggling past us having a fine old time and dd squeaked with excitement and went galloping off after them (she's only just learned to gallop) but they didn't want her to play too and she hung around the edges for a while getting withering glances, before giving up and playing a game by herself instead.

<Wail> I want to make the world a wonderful safe place for my little girl, with sunshine and birds tweeting and rainbows ...

Oh crikey, I know I will be exactly the same when DS is a bit bigger. She'll be just fine, I'm sure, but I can imagine it sucks for you right now.

TeaDr1nker Mon 11-Aug-08 20:33:51

sad i have this to come... and yes, i want to take DD away to a lovely sunny place too...

Doobydoo Mon 11-Aug-08 20:34:57

Oh it is so hard.That tale made me sad.It seems to happen gradually and I think gets abit easier[depends on circumstancee]I know how you feel.Mone are 9 and 16 months.

trefusis Mon 11-Aug-08 20:37:29

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sophiebbb Mon 11-Aug-08 20:37:30

Oh thank goodness for that!!! There is someone else thinking the same.

My DS is 20mths and DD is 3mths. I cannot bear to think of them doing 'dangerous' things that of course I do!!

My DH is Italian and you can bet your life that DS will be hurtling down ski slopes when he is 3yrs old. DH wants him to be a mountain climber and goodness knows what DD will get up to when she is older knowing what mother she has!!!!

How can mothers stand letting their DCs go anywhere near any dangerous or harmful situation......!!!

Doobydoo Mon 11-Aug-08 20:39:32

Circumstances!
Ds who is now 9 but quite small for his age went to a football camp 2 years ago.Parents dumped their kids and left,we hovered out of his sight.2 boys.Ds accidently dropped his ball on the bigger brothers foot and apologised saying sorry it was an accident[brothers]started to give him a hard time.The little one slapped ds and he didn't react but when the bigger brother came up being aggressive ds did a taekwondo kick at his chest!shockThey left him alone after that!Ds was half the size of the older brother.
I found it very hard not to rush in but I didn't.

Overmydeadbody Mon 11-Aug-08 20:47:06

brocolli if my 5 yr old had been there he would have befriended her instantly, taken her by the hand and 'helped' her all day. He loves looking after smaller children and they flock to him. She will have lots of lovely sunshine, rainbow, tweeting bird experiences too in life!smile

broccolispears Mon 11-Aug-08 21:22:53

Yes, thank you reminding me that there will be sunshine and rainbows too. And hooray for those of you with kind children who would have been nice to her today .

lazaroulovespastries Mon 11-Aug-08 21:28:34

A few months back ds2 tried to join in with a game of 'what's the time mr wolf?' at a party, except he didn't realise he had to turn and run, so he just stood there and took the full force of about twenty kids running at him. He's only two and he just stood there wailing.

Heated Mon 11-Aug-08 21:30:03

Oh your poor dd sad Quick, have 5 brothers and sisters for her!

I know exactly how you feel, ds exists in the belief that everyone is nice and he so disconcerted when they are not. I do worry when he starts school in September as he lives in this little bubble of friendly nice children.

Do think soft play centres bring out the worst in children and can attract a certain type of parent who just offloads and then becomes temporarily very short sighted.

Doobydoo Mon 11-Aug-08 21:32:39

Have to say my ds is extremely sensitive and has good verbal reasoning skills.and apologised but to no avail.I am angryat parents who dump their disruptive offspring at these events and leave them to others to sort out.The couple of days ds was at the camp were disrupted by these 2 brothers.Ds is the sort of boy who notices if a [girl]friend of his has different colour ribbons in her hairsmile

Peachy Mon 11-Aug-08 21:34:10

yanbu

when my ds's got their sn dx my heart actually felt as if it were breaking it physically hurt so much, had an over whelming desre to just hold onto them forever; really found it hard letting ds3 go into school at all.

It's normal parental instinct, and it's positive- all the rest of the world is looking out for theirs, you need to be wrapped up in yours too.

Bas has his Paed check tomorrow and I know it's 99.9% certain his heart murmur will have healed itself but still I feel this urge to run away with him to a foret and watch butterflies instead. Far less demanding on either of us.

broccolispears Mon 11-Aug-08 21:34:46

She does think everyone is nice as she only ever plays with children who are her 'friends' - children of friends of mine who she knows or is related to, and with me and the other parents nearby to put our oars in if anyone is being unkind.

broccolispears Mon 11-Aug-08 21:36:24

Peachy you're right. It IS a positive thing to feel this way. And can we come and watch butterflys with you?

Lazarou - you'll have me welling up again!

StealthPolarBear Mon 11-Aug-08 21:37:04

Well yes yabu but shove up and make room for me and DS on the island. We'll play nicely I promise!

LittleBella Mon 11-Aug-08 21:42:19

LOL at your thread title. No YANBU. We all want to do that to some extent. The problem is they would grow up and want to move to the urban jungle. I remember reading a description of his home in Australia by Clive James, a really vivid account of this lovely, beautiful, stable, comfortable place and he concluded that it was Paradise. "But I wanted Earth!" So he moved to London.

Human beings are so bloody cantankerous.

phdlife Mon 11-Aug-08 21:45:28

oh, me too - we were in a cafe on Saturday and 15m ds was staring intently studying little boy in highchair at adjacent table - then a big brother leaned over and pinched little one, who squealed, frightening the life out of my ds. His scared face breaks my heart, his mouth turns completely upside down, his eyebrows pinch right up and he tries so hard not to cry but in the end he can't help it, it comes out as big heaving sobs and he clings to me.

So we went for a walk outside and looked at a sparkly sticker on a van and it was alright but ten minutes after we went back, it happened again.

And the parents of Pinchy Kid and Squealy Baby did not notice a thing.

Megglevache Mon 11-Aug-08 21:46:00

Oh I know it is awful isn't it. Just think though those children probably already knew each other (quiches are everywhere) I bet you'll be delighted when she's a little bit older and she's made her own little group of friends at nursery.

Chin up smile

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