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iMum Mon 11-Aug-08 19:00:00

So dh is in our front garden at 5 this afternoon knocking a wooden post out of the ground with a sledge hammer-been at it about 15 mins when a bloke shouts aggressively from over the road and down a bit that there is a funeral going on and all they can hear is us banging and to stop it. Dh apologized and stopped but really should he have had to stop? The wake was taking place 2 doors down and over the road, should everyone else's day to day life get altered for this sort of thing? We had already been very accommodating by moving our car parked over the road early that morning to help them with parking.
I can see it from their point of view in as much as they are upset and probably need to vent but really? was it that out of order what we were doing?

nametaken Mon 11-Aug-08 19:02:51

The thing that would annoy me about this is that the man shouted aggressively from across the road.

Why couldn't he just go up to your dh and explain the situation nicely?

WorzselMummage Mon 11-Aug-08 19:04:18

I have written 2 posts and deleted them because they sounded rude.

If i were you and i knew there was a wake going on i wouldnt have been banging in the first place.

Tortington Mon 11-Aug-08 19:05:09


they were upset - give them some leeway - someone died.

LippyGobshite Mon 11-Aug-08 19:05:42

I think when people are grieving you have to cut them a lot of slack. I would've left the post banging for another day too.

LuckySalem Mon 11-Aug-08 19:06:35

I think they shouldn't have shouted but I also agree that if you knew it was happening you shouldn't have been banging. I'm afraid I think everyone's day to day stuff can stop for 1 day.

MrsTittleMouse Mon 11-Aug-08 19:06:52

I would have been very upset if someone knew that we were having a funeral and they were doing noisy DIY. It isn't an everyday occurance is it?

bubblagirl Mon 11-Aug-08 19:08:01

i think they didnt mean to be rude but maybe all reminising{sp?} and it was becoming hard to concentrate

was rude to shout out personally i would have gone over and explained situation but as others have said they qwere grieving so i think i would let it go

MrsFluffleHasAWuffle Mon 11-Aug-08 19:09:41

YAB most definitely U - and disrespectful.

You knew there was a funeral on, put yourself in their shoes for a minute. Surely the post banging could have waited.

TheProvincialLady Mon 11-Aug-08 19:10:46

You knew they were holding a wake so you shouldn't have been doing DIY at that time.

iMum Mon 11-Aug-08 19:11:26

Thing is tho it was the agression really that has go t my back up-We had no idea too the the wake was ongoing or even at that house, there were no sign iyswim-we had just moved the car from over the road in the morning to allow the cars to collect the funeral party.
I guess i can see their side as ive said, it was really just the manner in which it was carried out.
case closed, no more banging!

AbbeyA Mon 11-Aug-08 19:13:39

You have to make allowances if people are grieving a loved one. You knew it was a funeral because you moved the car. DIY was disrespectful.

Goober Mon 11-Aug-08 19:14:14

I had my Mum's funeral last month and although it went smoothly it was the worst day of my life. Something like you are describing would make matters much harder to handle.

If it was a wedding you'd have more respect. Why is a funeral party so different?

kittywise Mon 11-Aug-08 19:21:44

Both of you were wrong

TheHedgeWitch Mon 11-Aug-08 19:22:15

Message withdrawn

TheProvincialLady Mon 11-Aug-08 19:22:30

In ideal circumstances they should have asked politely, but feelings run high in these cases and they must have assumed you were well aware what was going on.

JuneBugJen Mon 11-Aug-08 19:25:28

They were wrong to shout, you did the right thing in stopping the DIY.
They are grieving, don't let this come between you as neighbours

SpookyMadMummy Mon 11-Aug-08 19:52:30

YABU. Some twat git person was playing MC Hammer during my grandfathers funeral 18 years ago. It was very upsetting, They knew that the funeral was taking place. The house overlooked the cemetery.

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